Chemical Pregnancy/Miscarriage

[Starry2007]

Hi, I just had a chemical pregnancy whereby I miscarried within 3 weeks since conception. I have been very sad and distressed and went through a week of emotional rollercoaster.

Has anyone else had the same experience? Did you find out the reasons? Doctors haven’t said much other than “it was not meant to be” or surmisec it to be poor egg quality given my low ovarian reserve. Did you go on to have normal periods straight away ? Did you have periods 4 weeks following day 1 of miscarriage? What can be done to improve egg quality? Did you go on to have a successful pregnancy?

Would appreciate thoughts and advice.

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[Sisi14]

Hi Hun sorry for your loss. I’ve not had a chemical pregnancy but last year I lost my twins by a missed miscarriage and found out at my scan which I was 13 weeks both babies had no heart beat and stopped growing it was an awful experience and hard but I began to realise that it wasn’t meant to be my sleeping angels are now flying high in the shy and now I am 19 weeks pregnant again and been blessed. I took folic acid and vitamin D from the week after my loss and just kept track of my cycles and worked out my fertile time. Some months I was upset as I didn’t get the double lines I wanted but now I can happily say I’m expecting, it’s a worrying time as I’m always anxious but I take one day at a time.

Just have some faith hun and your day will come very soon. All the best xxx

[Starry2007 in reply to Sisi14]

Thanks for your reply. I’m sorry you went through such a hard time. I hope you sail through all future worries.

Was your husband and family supportive when you went through miscarriage?

I feel like I’m the only one pushing this agenda forward. I feel he should also be researching stuff. His family have not been empathetic at all. I feel a rainbow of emotions. Pregnancy is obviously a journey where many hurdles can come in your path. Whilst i am desperate for a baby, I don’t think I can hack this “alone” / as that’s how I feel xx

[Sisi14 in reply to Starry2007]

Hi your very welcome...

my partner did try to understand as much as he could but I kept some feelings to my self and cried at night and questioned myself too. My 2 of 4 sisters were great my mum and I are not talking at the moment so nothing from her about the loss or the congratulations for this one . I have two older daughters they have been lovely too !

Some people don’t understand why we would be upset or they say it’s one of those things etc and if you’ve not been through it they don’t Underhill the hurt and pain hun u feel and alone. But on here my lovely your not alone so rant away on here if you need be!!

Also speak to your partner if possible to explain your feelings and anxiety as it will help you heal and take a step forward and if your ready in yourself start again ... xx 😘

[Starry2007 in reply to Sisi14]

I can totally relate to family being unempathetic. It is hurtful but I want to focus on the mission which is to make a baby.

[Sisi14 in reply to Starry2007]

Hun don’t you let certain family members affect you or your future you do what’s best for you and your partner! All I’d say when it comes to baby making is try and relax and have fun because it can stress you out when you make it a mission as it did for me for the first few months then I decided not to think about it and just enjoy it but also took my vitamins which helps too as I’ve been taking mine for 8 months now. I wish you the very best xx

[Starry2007 in reply to Sisi14]

Thank you so much for your supportive words!

I’ve decided to look for a counsellor and take up mindfulness lessons.

Ultimately, I know that being stressed will be counter productive.

My HCG is now under 1 which hopefully means I’ll ovulate soon. How soon did you ovulate following your miscarriage?

Wishing you the very best! Xx

[Sisi14 in reply to Starry2007]

Hi Hun , I think I ovulated the following month but I wasn’t keeping track only knew because of the pains I would get leading up to it mine was 12 day to 17th day so just tried to relax and do it 4 times in that period and after too.

That sounds like a good counselling session it will help you become more confident and stress free.

Thank you for your kind words too xx

[Starry2007 in reply to Sisi14]

Thank you. Let’s hope I ovulate soon.

I’ve been trying sports, walks and yoga. Counselling should hopefully help too.

It’s very tough when all I can think about is babies xx

[Sisi14 in reply to Starry2007]

Hopefully not long now babe. All those activities should help you. You can take those pregacare that help when trying to conceive . Xx