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Advice when to try for a baby after a miscarriage

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Hi jut looking for some advice in this hard time for me and my boyfriend. I lost my baby last week i was only early. But me and my boyfriend have been talking about trying for another I so want to be a mummy .is it to soon to start to try again how long should I wait I don't no because it had all been a week not saying going to start right this minute but next few weeks/ mouths jut want to be pregnant and have a baby we are ready and after losing this baby had made me even more want to have one. Please can someone give me some advice not to sure how long your ment to wit to have sex after a miscarriage thanks x

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Hi you can start ttc after having a period after mc think that’s so you can date the pregnancy if you fall straight after.

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Thanks u got told to wit a few months to try again someone sed I will b doing harm to my body is that right . We are only talking about trying and thanks x

I mc at 12w was told can start trying after 1 period from the nurse or whenever you want after that. We ttc straight away I’m 38 I haven’t time to wait not knowing how long it would take again. It took 6 mths I’m 12w on Sunday. Got my scan on wed praying everything is ok this time. You can ttc when your ready it’s up to you emotionally its hard but I felt the longer I wasn’t pregnant the more anxious I was to get pregnant again we wanted to be so badly.

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Aw good look chick and I am the same want a baby so bad I am only 19 20 in a few weeks but u don't no what around the corner my boyfriend is a bit older then me . But Iam ready to be a mum yeah in away I have all the time in the world . End of the day it up to me I don't care what anyone says . I have always wanted to have a big family I did not have a good childhood makes me want to give my child evything I have not had the best life possible. Not like Iam 19 and not done nothing with my life. I am on good money work in a nursery and my boyfriend has his own business so time is right. I think next few weeks I started to try again . X

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Go for it, when you have children it’s totally up to you and your partner. I have 2 girls to my ex husband my partner doesn’t have kids he’s younger I didn’t think I’d have anymore or want any but now I can’t wait I’m pleased he talked me into it lol

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Happy for good look xx

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Georgina_D

I waited 4 months after completed miscarriage. I had a lot of blood loss. I wanted to make myself physcally fit again as I had back pain.

Just as soon as you feel physically and emotionally ready. Good luck whatever you both decide x

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Thanks and have had 2 miscarriage now this time around has been so different. When I first had a miscarriage I lost a lot of blood and it last for mouths and could not walk for a few days not nice . And this time around has sill been hard but not has bad at last time . Me and my boyfriend have been talking about trying again . But we not going to for a few months has it has only been a week sic I lost . And I am sill bleeding has well . Going to give my body time to rest before trying again. Jut so scared becouse I want a baby so bad but don't think I could go few losing a another baby I think it will kill me this . I guess all I can do is hope for the best . Can I ask you something please . When you start to try again how long did it take to get pregnant or are yours sill trying for a baby? This might sound silly but I am so Scared to even have sex again is that normal felling to fell like that because I fell like it is not. Thanks x

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You are not silly it is so hard and stressed for every couple.After my first miscarriage doctors said about planning after 6-12 months, according to this we were not hurrying much and next pregnancy came in 18 months,but I also lost it couple weeks ago. This time I was in doctors, (different clinics) from 5-th weeks it was slow developing pregnancy. But when saw blood spots after second visit(8 weeks after last period) I understood it is death again.

But trying to change something this time I've started use progesterone and blood stoping medicine by advice from other doctor, after three days spots stoped. On next visit my egg was empty. I stopped all medicine and on third day after this called ambulance for abort. But again in egg was not empty, the size was 22 mm. And again hope come with blood stoping medicine.

But this night in hospital started blood flow like on menstruation. Next ultrasound shows womb without egg.

Doctor asked: what was here?

Other answered : - slow developing pregnancy.

They let me go home.

After three days the egg went out. I tried all attempts to do all abortive material for expertise,but it was unsuccessful.

This time I don't know whom listen. I don't want to wait so long for next planning just when my period normalized we stop contraception.

They say it is 🧬 Gen problem but if we not have these tragedies in our families till third generation minimum!?

And if it is we can't do child for sure!?

Only belief can helps me now

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LottyB

I would ask your doctor. But ultimately you know when you feel ready to start trying again.

I've had a couple of very early miscarriages over the years (and i mean not even 1 month - doctor even argued i wasn't pregnant with one. But it was different and later than my period). After coming off contraception it took us 2 years to get pregnant. It will happen when your body is ready for it.

Let your body recover and go from there.

Best of luck. X

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Ali502

Hi I lost second pregnancy in January this year and was told to try again after my first period which I did. I conceived again and was over the moon but sadly losing baby again

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How are you now, Ali?

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