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Miscarriage

I apologize women who had miscarriage more than once and trying for many years to get pregnant.

I supposed to be 8 weeks pregnant but ultrasound showed that the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and l am going to miscarry this is my first pregnancy. Me and my husband are totally devastated l have been trying to get pregnant for a year. These were the worst 5 days for me l couldn't accept first but now l am desperate l don't know how to deal with this l can't do anything l can't eat can't sleep don't want to see or talk to anyone don't do any housework l just sit sit sit in the silence and l don't have any hope for future l only exist I can't feel anything but sadness l can't even cry anymore inside me there is an ache getting worse every day l can't even breathe normally l just want to sleep and don't wake up again

I can't continue my life how can l will live again like before... I am like sick and not able to do anything and everyday is getting worse

What will l do ? What can l do ? I am lost

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This happened to me 8/9 months ago, you’re totally not alone and your feelings sound very familiar! I know it isn’t much consolation but 1 in 3 pregnancies end in miscarriage so you’re definitely not alone and many women on this forum can sympathise with how you’re feeling. Make sure you talk about how you’re feeling with any close family and friends, and speak to your GP to get support. You will suffer grief, it will hurt but it will get better! And if this is your first pregnancy then rest assured that there is no reason your next pregnancy should end in miscarriage whenever/if you want to try again. I’m so sorry for your loss and sending you big hugs xx

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I Second Jenna hun she's right unfortunately I'm one of those that suffer reocurrent loss but even I can offer hope I have a 4 year old, daughter and I'm now 16 week pregnant.

Your experiencing early stages of grief hun it's awful and it doesn't seem fair that the world just carries on, you'll get through this and maybe contact the miscarriage association lovely they will help you to talk and also do speak with your gp hun. It's important to talk and not bottle things up lovely. Otherwise you'll explode and, become someone you never even knew. There's every chance you'll conceive again and carry to term lovely. Hope you've got lots, of support sending you loads of gentle hugs and much love.

💝😘💝

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Ahh it’s the worst feeling I’ve been through it too I still feel shitty and have myself a little cry especially as I’m not pregnant again yet. Let yourself cry and grieve you will feel better eventually but it does take time. If you do feel really upset and are struggling to cope speak to your gp. Hug your husband too support each other xx lots of love

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Thank you for your support dear friends thank you so much

I am waiting to miscarry naturally but l have only red spotting with little clots. I don't have bleeding or pain so l think that miscarriage is not happening still

How long l will wait? I am afraid ofD&C

Which is better natural miscarriage or D&C ? :(

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We don’t really do D&C in the uk anymore because it leaves scar tissue, they do ERPC for surgical option which uses gentle suction to help pull the tissue away. I opted for that option because psychologically it gave a solid end point and helped me move on. The thought of waiting and actually physically experiencing it filled me with dread but some people need to see and feel it to come to terms with it. Everyone is different so do what feels right to you

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I had a D&C in December 2016 after we miscarried our first baby. We also lost our second baby 4 months later in April 2017. I wanted to miscarry naturally with our first but baby got stuck in my cervix and after 2 weeks in agony, I was advised to have a D&C. I was petrified but it took the physical pain away.

I like yourself couldn't see how I could carry on. I didn't see the point. All we wanted was a baby and start our family and we lost our baby. As you can imagine after deciding we wanted to try again and losing our second baby, I was so numb inside. I ended up suffering with anxiety and depression. I didn't know what to do so I pushed my fiancé away and I felt like everything was my fault.

But it wasn't my fault. As the days went By, I cried a little less, started going out more, tried to eat more and eventually I was living a normal life. At first I felt guilty. I still think of our babies every day. We have since been blessed with our rainbow boy who's 7 weeks old.

My point is, I know right now the world seems dark and you can't see a way how to live a normal life but it does get easier. One day you'll be cradling your rainbow baby that your Angel has picked out for you especially. If you ever need to talk hun, just message me. You're not alone xx

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Thank you so much xx wish you and your family the best God bless you xx

Did doctors say why it happened again second time? And did you use pills or something else in your last pregnancy?

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Thank you!

What do you mean did I take pills? The doctors didn't say anything as to why. You have to have 3 miscarriages before the doctors will look into why x

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I had a natural at home was bleeding for 3-4 days with no pain then pain for 3 days have to say it was intense at times but stopped as soon as the big clots came out. I rang the doctor for strong pain killers as cocodamol, ibuprofen didn’t work.

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Cavendis, the loss is indeed very big. I can feel what you are going through. I myself experienced several miscarriages. I have been TTC for nearly 9 years. Until I discovered surrogacy. The infertility journey is terrible yet tests you in every possible way. The miscarriage was a hope and as well as depressing. The hope that I am able to conceive naturally and the fear of losing it at the same time was brutal. I know what you are going through. Moreover, If you have no major fertility issue, you have high chances of getting pregnant again. The miscarriages don't hurdle conception. Even its an old wives tale that, miscarriages allows you have another right away. So hun, don't despair, you must seek fertility counselor in order to deal with the postpartum depression. Moreover, consult your fertility doctor to advise you to determine the right time for your body to TTC again. Soon you will be welcoming your rainbow baby. Prayers. xx

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Thank you l am sorry that you me and anothrr people went through this

l hope l can have a healthy baby asap xx

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It is possible i had a miscarriage in the april of 2016 then fell pregnant right away again after it didnt have a period after it. my son was born 2017 january.

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Hello dear! I'm really sorry you have to go through such pain. I know that this is really hard to be strong in such situation. I had 6 miscarriages. This is so hard to stop feeling the pain. We have been trying to conceive for 8 years. These years were a nightmare for us. I am very lucky I have supportive husband. But his and mine parents make the situation worse. They can't stop asking when we will give them grandchildren. They can't stop blaming me in inability to have children. They can't stop turning my life into a nightmare. In such situation it is very hard not to give up and stop trying. I've changed so many doctors, so many clinics. I've tried literally everything to get pregnant and the most important to save the pregnancy. Unfortunately nothing worked for me. We wasted so much money and nerves and got nothing in result. After the pain we went through I'm actually surprised that we still have tiny bit of hope. We are thinking about the surrogacy option. This is our last chance and we want to use it. Dear I wish you all the best! I hope you feel better now. I wish you to become a mother and be happy!

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Dear stellaSS

Thank you so much for your support. Don't know what to say to you because l know that words are worthless nothing can stop the pain, the disappointment. I can only say that l will pray for you l believe in miracles l hope that a miracle happens and you forget all of this and be happy. Wish you all the best xxx

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So sorry for your loss. I know that there is nothing that can be said to ease your pain. All of the best wishes and from everyone does not bring your baby back. Please just know that people are thinking of you, feel for you and have been in your position. I'm very sorry to hear about this. I know there are no words that can make you feel better. I can only empathize with you. As everyone else has said, there's nothing that I or anyone can say to ease your mind, BUT I would suggest to try NOT being alone too much. As most of the women on this forum, I'm TTC and it's been very frustrating for me and my husband. My heart goes out to you. But I am so very sorry that you have to go through this. I just hope God will ease your pain. You are going to have to go through the greif, but hopefully you will be able to come out of it with new hope. Just keep believing it will happen. Not today, but it will. The good thing is that you can keep on trying again and it'll come to you.

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I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. I had multiple MCs. It was really hard to go through such pain. I know how you feel. I had 3 miscarriages. I still can't recover from unbearable pain inside. I was also very scared to get pregnant again. I had a very deep depression and problems with mental health. My dh and I decided to turn to surrogacy. Actually that was not only our decision but also doctors advise and my health' indicators. Someone may say we "gave up" too fast. But we decided it will be better for me, for us and for our family. I wish you all the best with your ttc process!

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Miscarriage is a dreadful moment in life of a women. My sympathies are with you. Don't lose hope and look after yourself for the sake of your child. Consult a suitable clinic which is good in the treatment of pregnant women. My friend also faced such situation and she almost lose hope. But then she contacted a well known clinic in eastern Europe and gone for surrogacy and now she is enjoying her motherhood with a beautiful baby girl. Sending you positive vibes. Best wishes for your motherhood.

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