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Has anyone had a miscarriage on here?

I was just wondering if there are any ladies on here who have had a miscarriage before and would be open to talking about them. I had one last year and am struggling to get passed it so I feel that talking to someone who's been through similar would really help. If you personal message me I'd really appreciate it

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I think there’s a few of us on here who’ve experienced a loss Hun including myself! I hope your ok x

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Yeah Its just such an emotional thing. It's gotten me down a lot recently because it's been just over a year that I conceived and just a couple of months from when I lost them. Want to start trying again but my partner isn't ready yet so it's hard because I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place :/ xx

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Do you have any children? Yes it’s hard hun and an emotional time , my miscarriage was August with twins it was hard and emotionally draining but I had to stay strong because I believed it obviously wasn’t my time and now they are my sleeping angels 👼 but I never will forget them and cherish that I was able to carry them for the months I did !

Is your partner too scared to have any more children or incase it happened again? Are you ready ? Do you both talk about it ?

We want another baby and going for the laid back approach now as I was stressing too much before!

X

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I don't have any children currently. I'm only 20. I didn't want children until I was 23 or somewhere near there but obviously with what's happened I'm ready and really want to start trying soon (when I say trying I mean more just going off my pill and not preventing it)

We have spoken about it and he just says he wants one but soon not right now and that he doesnt understand why im rushing. But I guess he doesn't realise how emotional it is for me and that even if we were trying I might not conceive straight away anyway.

I think the only thing he's worried about is if I went through that again as he kept saying he was upset we lost them but when he saw how much pain I was in (I heamorraged) that was much more important to him. But he also said If I felt comfortable to try then we could. Makes it worse because he sent me a message before the miscarriage happened that if the baby survives we have a family and if they don't then we'll try again... But now I'm ready, he's not :( I don't feel he will be for a while either xx

Sorry for the length x

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We've got 2 Angel babies hun. I openly talk about them. I've sent you a message xx

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Maybe waiting isn’t such a bad idea, I lost my first son at 21weeks and I thought my only way over it would be to be pregnant again to take my mind off it, instead it just sent me deeper into depression that lasted when I had my second baby (full term) and I ended up struggling with post natal depression. Obviously I’m not saying this is what will happen, I’m just saying that time is a good healer, a miscarriage at any stage of pregnancy is devestating, it’s a life you were planning, excited for, made plans for etc... and it’s just gone. No reason or explanation... I’m here if you need to talk. I know the deviststion of a loss and the desperation of wanting a baby. Xx

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I did want to start trying straight away but with it happening I left it awhile because I knew that if I did get caught I'd end up feeling uneasy through the whole process. I know that I will be on edge with the next but I feel it'll be worth it if I manage to carry the whole time. It is just a you never know if you don't try for me at the moment xx

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I had one Christmas 2016 after IVF and I’ve never felt so low as I did then. We went for our 2nd round of IVF in April last year and I was still feeling crap but the process took my mind off it and now we have a baby girl. Hopefully your parter will feel ready soon xx

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So did you find trying again helped you? Xx

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Yeah definitely. I would of done it sooner if we were allowed xx

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See I know it helped my cousin and my sister who have been through similar. Did you find that you weren't able to enjoy the pregnancy tho with knowing that you could lose them again xxx

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Sometimes the men don’t know how to process it. My husband got angry and snappy in the months after it happened but wouldn’t really talk about it. I think they get scared just like we do.

I did find that I was always on edge. I suffered with bleeding just like a miscarriage at six weeks and was terrified. It got a little easier when she started moving but then I was constantly worried about whether I felt her in the day or not but I worried less as time went on.

Also I had a private scan at 16 weeks and 30 weeks so that helped as well and the midwife checks the heartbeat at every check up xx

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Yeah I think I'd be on edge until I felt the movements x

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I’ve had 2... one in November ‘17 and then got pregnant very quickly again in March and had an ectopic in March this year... here if you want a chat- I’m 24!

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I have 5 children but in 2015 I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks when I had 3 children already. the baby's heartbeat stopped at 6 weeks. no matter how early it is heartbreaking but I can now openly talk about it without crying and being too upset. at first I didn't cope well at all I couldn't eat or sleep. I found it hard to look after the children I had so needed a lot of support. but I've had 2 more children since. I did feel worried the next pregnancy but we paid for an early scan and everything was fine .I still count that I have 6 children even if 1 is an angel baby. we never forget them. it is 1 in 4 pregnancies that result in miscarriage unfortunately it is common. it usually it happens because something was wrong with chromosomes etc.when it's early. how far were you hun if you don't mind me asking. if you want to chat then please message me. take care of yourself xxx

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My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I now have a healthy daughter. You can inbox me if you want x

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