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Tips on how to not get obsessed with TTC!?

After miscarrying in February I think I’m directing all my upset and despair into obsessing over getting pregnant again. I know this isn’t a healthy way to deal with it, any tips or experience on how to listen to the rational voice in my head, stop obsessively testing, counting and being disappointed and just enjoy my life and relationship wholeheartedly again? Thanks x

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Hi I understand what your feeling I’m the same ttc after a miscarriage when you want to be pregnant again so badly and obsessing it’s been 4 attempts for me since I get so emotional when it doesn’t happen I’ve actually said this month we shouldn’t try and give ourselves a break even thought I know when we should I’m trying not to think about it but it’s so hard don’t want to miss an opportunity. And I’m not testing ovulation or pregnancy til after a missed period stop wasting money. Your body also needs time to heal did it take you long to get pregnant?

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Makes me feel better to know you feel the same. I should stop testing too! Took us about 6 months, but we weren’t trying, I’d come off the pill but I was barely even keeping track of the date, not testing or counting, so felt really lucky when it came pretty easy. It’s only since the mc that I’ve got all stressy and desperate, like I’m trying to fix the situation and convince us both it never happened 😔

Fingers crossed for us both xx

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Like others, my advice would be to take a break and concentrate on eating a good diet, staying fit (up your exercise) and limit or reduce your alcohol & caffeine to 0%. When I was trying for a baby, it didn’t happen over night (9 months of trying although it can take much longer for some) I too became obsessed and upset every month when my period came. So, I did all of the above and when my husband and I were both ready, it happened first time. The body is very sensitive and will only conceive when all the conditions are right for you. Stay positive and wishing you all the very best.

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I know the feeling hun. We lost our first angel in Dec 2016 and lost our second angel in April 2017. I was doing a test like every weekend! I was obsessed. It was taking a toll on our relationship. After talking to my fiancé, we decided to start planning our wedding and decided to go on holiday abroad for a week for some time away together and when we got back we would try again.

Turns out we conceived before we went abroad but I didn't realise until I was r weeks pregnant. I gave birth to our rainbow boy on the 25th of March this year ❤!

Everyone said best way to concieve is not to think about it and focus on something else. I didn't believe it until it happened for us. Wishing you all the best! Xx

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Congratulations on the birth of your little one and thanks so much x

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How about focusing on being fit and healthy before conceiving again? Maybe set a fitness or weight goal and eat healthy and allow yourself to grieve over your lost pregnancy first xx

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Those sound like excellent bits of advice. Must admit I’ve had a couple of glasses of wine recently , but started back at my gym class this morning, got the juicer back out and already feel more positive. So I’ll heed your advice and keep it up, might help me relax too.

Thank you, means a lot that you all share your tips and kind words xx

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