Advice when trying for a baby : Hey all, So here goes...

Hey all,

So here goes.... I’ve had 5 miscarriages and had an eptopic pregnancy. All miscarriages where when I was on contraception and when we weren’t trying for a baby (the pill and mirena coil). The eptopic pregnancy when we were actively trying to have a baby with me without any contraception for the first time In 20 years went as well as it could’ve gone in that I’m not damaged in any way and am still able to conceive.

The problem albeit not that big of a problem is that after three months of trying I’m not pregnant yet. This is causing petty arguements as my husband can’t understand why I’m not pregnant yet.

Ive changed my diet to be more healthy, I’ve reduced my smoking and I’m tracking my ovulation and I’m still not pregnant!

Does anyone have any tips that have helped them and think that can help us because at the moment although I want nothing more than to be a mum and for my husband to be the amazing dad that I know he’ll be, I’m struggling and I’m starting to think that maybe we’ll never be parents.

I know that you have to wait for a year of trying before you’ll be granted any tests through the nhs but I’m struggling to understand how I could get pregnant more than once when on contraception but nothing apart from panthom pregnancy now I’m on no contraception.

Thanks in advance

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LucyJJ

a year ago

Hi Laura,

I think having fallen pregnant five times when on contraception has maybe given you a slightly wrong idea of how easy it is to become pregnant?

You’ve been trying for just three months, and even thought it’s frustrating every months - three months is really a very short time. A normal, healthy couple takes on average 12-18 months to fall pregnant!

By the sounds of it you haven’t lost a tube following the ectopic pregnancy but have been treated either with methotrexate or it dissolved itself? That’s very fortunate and puts you in a better position! I lost my right tube through an ectopic and am also in that frustrating time of ‘why haven’t I fallen pregnant yet’. They do say 60% of women are pregnant within a year following an ectopic, but that’s all statistics.

To me it sounds like you are doing all the right things (maybe just try and stop smoking completely), and the two of you just need to give it a bit more time, however frustrating it is.

Make sure you go to the EPU as soon as you find out you are pregnant so they can monitor you for ectopic pregnancy.

All the best!

Ps: just remember one thing some women try that I’ve read about in a support group: ‘pre-seed’. Readily available. I’ve tried it just once so dar (waiting to be able to test for pregnancy in a few days), and I hear many people have success. It creates a sperm-friendly environment or something like that Look it up, I’m never sure what to make of these things...!