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12 week scan tomorrow - miscarriage last year... Anxious!

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Hi all! It's my first time posting here :) I don't have a question as such, I just wanted to share how I am feeling.

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks back in November last year and it was just horrible. I fell pregnant within 6 weeks of my miscarriage, and it has been a really nerve-wracking time.

The past 8 weeks have felt really long, but I finally have my 12 week scan tomorrow. I've (somehow) managed to resist having an early scan, so this is the first time we will be seeing the baby.

I am such a mixed bag of emotions today. On one hand I am excited (we want this baby more than anything), but I am also extremely anxious. Having had the miscarriage, I think I am more aware of the things that can go wrong, and I am absolutely terrified I'm going to be told I've had a missed miscarriage, or that there's just no baby there.

Wishing the next 24 hours away!

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I know how you feel. We had a missed miscarriage at an 8 week scan after IVF and it was awful.

We then had another round of IVF and it worked again but I was a nervous wreck most of the way through pregnancy.

I had bleeding at 6 weeks so was sure it was over but we were ok and I was scanned nearly every week until 12 weeks.

I was so scared every time we had a scan as we had a gender one at 16 weeks then the hospital one at 20 and another 4d one at 30. I couldn’t believe it was all real until I had her in my arms so everything your feeling is absolutely normal.

I’ve got everything crossed for you tomorrow and good luck! Xx

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Thank you so much for your message. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, it really is so very difficult.

It's terrifying isn't it, I just feel so on edge. I'm hoping after the scan I will be able to get excited, but I think that anxiety will linger. I've been so focused on getting to 12 weeks, I've not really thought about the other 28 weeks that follow!

I'm so glad you got your rainbow baby, it's so lovely to hear.

Thank you very much, I'm hoping I get some sleep tonight (it's like Christmas Eve as a child, only much scarier!). Xx

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I’m sure the anxiety may linger still but excitement will take over more.

I know what you mean about the Christmas feeling I felt like this every time we had a scan it’s lovely but definitely scary xx

Hi sorry to hear about your miscarriage I too had one in Nov last year at 12 weeks we were gutted. Its nice to hear you're pregnant again straight away, I think I will be super anxious too if I manage to conceive again its just natural to feel that way. Just have to be positive and try to relax I'm sure all will go well for you.

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amyloolie in reply to gcw104

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, and at 12 weeks must have been very difficult too. It's just so hard to get your head around. We were very lucky with falling so quickly. I bled for 6 weeks following my miscarriage, but did my ovulation test 2 weeks after the bleeding stopped, and I was ovulating. We really didn't expect to fall that month. It is a natural feeling, especially if you've experienced loss. It has been a very long 8 weeks since we found our. Sending you all the best wishes for the future.

Hi! How was the scan? I hope everything is alright and your baby is healthy! I'm so sorry for your loss... Miscarriages can be devastating, especially since there is nothing you can do to prevent them. I know mine left me thinking there's something wrong with me but I don't know what and I have no way to fix it. Luckily, now my husband and I have a son. So it's worth trying again!

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Hope your scan went ok xx

Thank you all so much for your replies. We had our scan this morning, and baby was absolutely wonderful! Measuring exactly 12 weeks which is what we thought, and was being a little pickle and wouldn't stop wriggling. Thank you again for all of your messages. I didn't sleep a wink last night, was nearly sick this morning with the anxiety, and cried about 4 times before we even left the house. But as soon as we saw our wriggly little baby, I felt 100 times better. Xx

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Lovely news xx

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Thank you xx

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SO pleased for you! I bet that’s like a weight has been lifted. Now you can relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy! 🎉

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amyloolie in reply to jenna01

It really is, I feel like I can breathe properly for the first time in 8 weeks. It's starting to feel real now. Thank you very much :) xx

That’s great so pleased for you

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Thank you! :)

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