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Hey girlies!

Having a bit of a rough time at the moment with mother’s day coming up! I had a miscarriage in September last year and have been really emotional this last week. Is anyone else feeling like this? I would have been about 8 months by now and getting ready to welcome my new little bundle of joy but I’m not 😪 however instead I am celebrating my little angel in the sky. I want to get something that I can have with me always but can’t decide what! Anyone have any ideas?

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Major2116

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage hun. I feel your pain. We've lost 2 babies and although I'm now 36 weeks pregnant with our rainbow boy, I still have a little cry for our angels in the sky, especially on the anniversaries.

Do you have Facebook? I found a lovely lady on there who makes jewelry and keyrings. I asked her to make me something to symbol our babies. She did such a good job. Definitely recommend her. She posts them out all over the UK.

We also have a memorial tea light candle holder that was £14.99 off Amazon. The words are beautiful xx

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Shughesy98 in reply to Major2116

Sorry to hear about your two angels but congratulations on your rainbow boy! I do have Facebook. Will have to have a look I was thinking of a necklace as I can carry that around 24/7 and I know my angel will be with me forever. Ahh I didn’t think of a tea light holder. I always have candles on the go thank you lovely for your support ❤️❤️

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Major2116 in reply to Shughesy98

Thanks hun.

facebook.com/LolaSaturnJewe...

That's her link. She made me a gorgeous necklace, bracelet and a completely personalised keyring. I asked her for the words and she put them on along with 2 dangling angels. If you message her, she will send you some ideas or just look on her albums.

Happy for a chat if ever you need to! Xx

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Shughesy98 in reply to Major2116

Thanks Hun. Just feel like I’m struggling a little bit this week. Should be excited cause it’s my birthday next week. I’m sure after Sunday I will be back on track again 😀

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Major2116 in reply to Shughesy98

It's hard I know :/. Every time Someone says is this your first Baby, I always reply he will be our first born but we have 2 angels in the sky. Just because they aren't with us on earth, doesn't mean you're not their mum. We have 3 children.

I'm sure your baby is watching you and very proud to have you as their mum ❤

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hvellanki in reply to Major2116

Even i have my two angels watching me from there...i now have a baby boy....jus like you said i always tell people tht he is my first born..Also i have ordered a bracelet from the above link you shared..Thanks hun..

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Major2116 in reply to hvellanki

It's heart breaking hun but I like to think our angels picked him out especially for us 💙!

Hope you like your bracelet! The woman who makes them is absolutely lovely!

Sorry to hear about your loss but I'm sure your angels chose your little boy just for you! Xx

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Shughesy98 in reply to Major2116

I spoke to the lady about the jewellery and ordered a necklace off of her me and her designed it together and it looks amazing I honestly love it she was so kind and helpful. Thank you so much major2116 for helping me find someone who would create the perfect necklace to remember my little angel xxx

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Major2116 in reply to Shughesy98

You're welcome hun! She messaged me and sent me a photo of it. It's absolutely gorgeous! So glad you like it hun! Happy I could help point you in the right direction!

I always wore my necklace or bracelet to our scans so our angels are there with us if that makes sense. So they get to see their brother that they chose for us.

Don't give up hope hun! Always happy to help.

Charli xx

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Shughesy98 in reply to Major2116

Glad you like it too xxx

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hvellanki in reply to Shughesy98

Sorry about your loss hun..i also lost my two babies in 2014..now i have a 18 month old boy...U have a beautiful future ahead....Thinking of u hun xx..i have got a lovely bracelet from the lady major2116 suggested..

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Shughesy98 in reply to hvellanki

Sorry about your loss but congratulations on having a little bit I bet he is absolutely adorable! Having this miscarriage has made me want children even more than I ever did before but I know it has to be when I’m in a stable situation! Lots of love xxxx

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hvellanki in reply to Shughesy98

Exactly hun..Take ur time....Thanks so much xx..all the luck to u xx

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Sisi14

I am a mother to 6 children but only 3 that are here with me today! It’s hard but they will always be with you , I always say prayers at night and tell them all how much I love and miss them ! One baby would be 5 years and the twins would be 2 weeks old. All you can do is remember you were blessed with carrying them in your tummy and now your always carry them in your heart ❣!! Happy Mother’s Day to all you beautiful mummies xxx

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Shughesy98 in reply to Sisi14

Happy mother’s day lovely xxx

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Sisi14 in reply to Shughesy98

Thank you, you too xx

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Elleb2017

I had a miscarriage in December 2016, 3 days before christmas. I was completely unaware that I had fallen pregnant on my honeymoon so really struggled with the fact that, I lost a baby I was unaware I was carrying.

Last year was extremly difficult for me and especially when the due date arrived and you begin to see everyone with babies around you and feel like its unfair.

My baby would have been almost 1 now and I am certian it was a little boy. I will always remember him and have bought a teddy from him for any other babies we have in the future. The loss of our first baby made my husband and I desperate for a baby so decided to try. I will never forget our first baby and still struggle now with anniversaries especially at christmas.

There is nothing wrong with crying and feeling down about someone you have lostno matter how long it has been. I still do.

Hope you find something special to remember them. Heres to all of us who have lost but, the babies we will always remember and to our rainbow babies which are waiting to be created and arrive! 😚⚘🍼🌈

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Shughesy98 in reply to Elleb2017

I know exactly how your feeling Hun. I was pregnant without knowing until I got really ill and knew I was but all the tests came back negative because I had had a missed miscarriage. So when I had my engagement party and got very drunk I was pregnant and when you look back at the pictures you can see how bloated my stomach was that night and how ill I looked xx

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jowalk6

So sorry for your pain hun. My little girl was born asleep at 39 weeks, she would have been 6 on 14th march. I don't know if it's your thing but I had a tattoo in memory of her so it's always with me. Our angel babies are with us always. Thinking of you. Please take care x

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Shughesy98 in reply to jowalk6

Hello lovely, I’m so sorry to hear that! Your angel would have had her birthday the day before me. I was going to have a tattoo but I couldn’t decide which one so for short term or long term I have brought an amazing necklace from a lovely lady on Facebook. Xxx

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jowalk6 in reply to Shughesy98

That's a lovely idea. Another thing I do is her birth flower would have been daffodil, so when they are available I keep them in the house. It's hard but in time you will heal but you will never forget xx

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Shughesy98 in reply to jowalk6

Aww that’s so sweet! To be honest I thought I had healed but this week it has been like living in hell. I can’t even go near a baby this week which is unusual for me. But then again I was the same when I lost my baby. I had a complete breakdown and couldn’t look or hold a baby xxx

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jowalk6 in reply to Shughesy98

Believe me hun that's all normal, it takes time and you feel nobody understands the pain you feel. I still cry over her and I know I will again on the 14th. I had my rainbow little boy, but I will never forget my angel girl xx

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AlexandriaD

Hi ladies,

I found out 2 days ago that I have had a miscarriage! I feel so extremely sad from being pregnant one day and and not the next.

It was my first pregnancy and I’m now so worried it will happen again in the future.

Thinking of you all.

Alex

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Shughesy98 in reply to AlexandriaD

This is how I felt at the beginning but I’ve discovered a little bit of faith goes a long way when you feel like this. I am so so sorry for your loss so close to such a special time. Thinking of you xxxxxx

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