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I am waiting to hear back from an application the job is fab - I believe I will be able to really through myself into. At the same time as I am 41 I feel I deserve a baby.

If I start this job how long should I give it before getting pregnant? what if the boss gets difficult with me

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Kate91

You have to be working so long before being eligible for maternity pay check your contract once a contract is signed boss can't get difficult if you fall pregnant after.

Are you in the UK? If so, here are your rights and entitlements gov.uk/maternity-pay-leave

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Hopful85

Hi Pumpkins the lady’s are right you have to be working a particular length of time to be entitled to maternity leave.

A few months before we conceived I was offered my dream job but I had to think really hard about what I wanted. It was either wait another year and take the job or decline and continue trying for a baby.

I’ve always put my career first but wanted a baby for years. I’m 4 months pregnant now and think another job will come along but I definitely made the right decision for me xx

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roxannacar

Might be worth asking for hr for their family policy so no misunderstandings then but you have to have worked a certain amount of months for full maternity benefit otherwise it's reduced

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Georgina_D

I went to my job interview pregnant. I didn't look pregnant and obviously disn't say so at interview. I started my new job 2 months before my due date. I'm allowed a year of work but will not get maternity pay, instead I claim maternity allowance from the job centre.

Also remember you and your partner can take shared parental leave x

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roxannacar in reply to Georgina_D

Can I ask do you get a full year of maternity allowance? My Mat leave is via employer but last 3 months I get £0.

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Kate91 in reply to roxannacar

gov.uk/maternity-allowance/...

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Georgina_D in reply to roxannacar

Maternity allowance is for 39 weeks (9 months) but you can take 52 weeks (1 year). Last 3 months are unpaid. Also mat allowance is only £140/week x

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hough

RoxannaCar, the same, I got 9 months off on either 90% salary, then less after first 6 months (Statutory Mat Pay maybe?), then after 9 months it was £0 (zero dolla); so I went back to work when tyke was 8.5 months old part-time 3 days a week.

I had to have been employed there for 26 weeks (6 months) to get this (i worked for a university) & I couldn't afford not to earn anything for 3 months as hubby was a semi-cover teacher in primary school then, earning 15k a year & paid weekly. Now I'm full-time (our tyke nearly 3 - started f/t in Aug 2016) & we pay for nursery (small fortune). Caveat: I had to negotiate with employer for like a year to work p/t 3 days a week, as they feel my job should be f/t!! Be aware, the UK employers flexible working policies are not always as flexible as all that!

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Bluelady-sing

Thanks guys

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Bluelady-sing

My problem is that all my work involves national travel

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Bluelady-sing

what do guy's do after about child care, I need to earn enough to be able to pay living costs and child care £57 per day. I am going for a better paid job

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roxannacar in reply to Bluelady-sing

Look into other options like child minder, ask family for help, and anydays partner can cover. However if you travel a lot for work you will definitely need help from others, as nursery at best will not cover all hours. My nursery is fairly good and does 7:30 - 18:30.

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Georgina_D in reply to Bluelady-sing

I

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Georgina_D in reply to Bluelady-sing

I plan to use a child minder and my mum. Yes £50/day is a lot, but I see it as £25 each (me and bf) and Im still guaranteed my job. I can't risk being unemployed when my child is older.

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roxannacar in reply to Georgina_D

Does child minder cost that much too?? I pay around £60/day at nursery ... includes all food, nappies, nappy cream etc. Luckily my toddler turns 3 in December so we should get some free hours! Yippee

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Georgina_D in reply to roxannacar

I haven't really looked into it that much yet. From what I've read online child minder starts £36/day x

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roxannacar in reply to Georgina_D

Depending on where you live and how far you are if starting looking around. I live in south Manchester and I checked three nurseries close by, 9 months before daughter was starting... two advised waiting list and third said it's fine if I apply at least 6 months before 😵 but might be popular as close to a hospital

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Bluelady-sing

Thanks Guy's I am going to a lone parent - my fella does not want to get married. he is petrified as he has seen some bad divorces

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Kate91 in reply to Bluelady-sing

You only count as a lone parent if you dont live with the father of the baby or someone you are in a relationship with, not if your not married. Im not married to the father of my kids and im not a lone parent

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roxannacar in reply to Bluelady-sing

Have you discussed kids with your partner? Guess my opinion... but I think a kid is a much bigger commitment than marriage, your children are yours for life

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Bluelady-sing

I know, I love him , he is afraid to get married as he witnessed his brothers marriages fail. He wants to have a baby he has asked me a number of times he even dreamed I was pregnant, I am not sure what this means. having the big talk tonight.

He might not live with me as he works too much

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