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Im lost without my scan results😢very sad results 8weeks5days no more baby

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Aiko
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December259:30am my scan day then i take a ultrasound then mydoctor he said the baby in my uterus is not function in short the babyis not growing up and soon or later ihave a more bleeding and heavy pain😢I'm so very very sad what have i done wrong i do my best anything why did this happen to me it is painful for a mother to lose her baby😢how can i forget everything that happened to me 😢

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Mad_musician7

Same happened to me. You haven’t done anything wrong. The rate of miscarriage is about 43% of pregnancies it is just not commonly known. Lots of people don’t necessarily know they are pregnant by that point but you can’t have done anything to cause it. Take care and seek support if you need it.

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Aiko in reply to Mad_musician7

Thank-youmad musician imvery sad and my husband to much sad he crying everyday what im going to do so sad to lose a baby

I'm sorry, thinking of you xxx

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Amanda86

So sorry 🙁 thinking of you xxx

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Sisi14

I’m so sorry for your loss Hunni it’s hard to get through but you can do it. First of all you’ve not done anything wrong , it just wasn’t time.

I was pregnant with my twins and had a missed miscarriage and found out at my scan, I would be due next month! It still hurts til this day and I will never forget them, but it the only thing that helps me is knowing that it wasn’t my time to have them and had to have a D&C as they didn’t want to come out. I hope you find the strength to get through it as I take one day at a time and when you’re ready you can try again. Hugs and kisses xx

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Aiko in reply to Sisi14

Sisi14thank-you very much i accept your advice thank-yousomeday i will receive it my peace of my heart 😢

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Sisi14 in reply to Aiko

Just take each day as it comes and every day it will get a little bit easier! You and your partner will find peace and help and support each other through your emotions. God bless to you both xx

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Aiko in reply to Sisi14

Thank-yousisi 14 belated merryChristmas and hapy new year more blessing to come and your family godblessed you always

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Sisi14 in reply to Aiko

Merry Christmas and all the best for 2018 May all your wishes be blessed and come true.. xx

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Sisi14

Why don’t you and your partner light a lantern together and say a few words each that might help too. Xx

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luv2017

Sorry for your loss. Hope you get better soon . Don’t loose your heart and something better is waiting for you. Start your new year with new hopes .. am terribly sorry for you

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Aiko

Thank-you luv2017 iwant tobe Happy my husband he is very affected for this happened to lose my baby😢

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jowalk6

So sorry for your loss hun. You have done nothing wrong. My little girl was born asleep at 39 weeks. I understand the pain you feel. You will get stronger but you will never forget. I hope you and your partner can help each other through. Take care and don't try to keep your feelings in. God bless you x

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Aiko in reply to jowalk6

Thank-you jowalk6 to advice i will forget it too everything happened to my baby 😢

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Joyblessing

Hon take a day at time healing is a process and all will be well. May God take care of you and your husband.

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Aiko in reply to Joyblessing

Thank-you joy blessing i know god is good for all the time

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claire16c

This happened to me too I’m so sorry for your loss. Have you not been offered a d&c?

If not I would ask for some prescribe painkillers x

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hough

So sorry Aiko, for your loss. It is hard at first, but gets easier with time. My first baby was lost at 7 weeks (heart stopped) in Jan 2014. Pregnant again July 2014 & our son will be 3 in April. I was anxious til round 12 or 20 week scans during 2nd pregnancy. We were so sad, but stayed healthy & focused on trying again. Then we were very, very lucky.

Please don't blame yourselves, you both did nothing wrong, sometimes these things just happen.

To jowalk6, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Happened to a friend of mine at 26 weeks. Hoping you have / have had support network / access to counselling? Wishing you peace & happiness for 2018!

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Darleenpeter

Just found out my daughter's is not beating at six weeks. Yes I do know how big our baby is but I think he should be honored. I don't want this precious life thrown into a garbage bag. What can I do? Please help

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Sisi14

I think all precious lives should be honoured no matter how old they are ! I am very sorry for your sad news xx

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