Hi there, I'm 26 and a bit weeks pregnant and getting to planning stage (maybe a bit late!). I'd really like some advice/thoughts....my mum and dad live in Germany, I live in Scotland and my man is a very busy businessman who owns and runs two businesses. He's not great in the flat to be fair and I do most things in the flat (cleaning flat, organizing, washing, shopping - yeah pretty much everything).
Now my mum has offered to come over pre-birth and for a couple of weeks after. I really appreciate the offer however...I'm worried that my man will see it as 'well her mum's there and work is busy, I'll just go do a shift and come home later'....I DO NOT want this - it would send me scatty, really stress me out and really annoy my mum too. I can see this happening. I spoke to my mum last night and told her this, saying I'd like for him to step up, bond with his kid and take the time to be at home with us. Thing is in terms of who would help more, it would be my mum without a doubt. But I don't want the stress and aggravation if he sees it as the opportunity just to go back to work. I'd like us to go home as a family unit and have say 7-10 days at home bedding in, getting to know the baby a little etc, having him step up and give us a hand.
Has anyone had a child already, had experience of anything like this or had their mother with them etc. My mum wants an answer this week, so she can book flights and I just don't know what to say. Obviously we don't know when the baby will be born mind you....!
I feel like assistance would be great, but I'm inclined to ask my mum to come over a couple of weeks later instead, so we as a family unit can go home and do the bedding in thing with baby...
Any thoughts massively appreciated!