Sleeping managment

[BabyTy]

Hello everyone I'm trying to put my baby to sleep in his room and cot but he is screaming the place down. Any advise on how to do that? Thanks

[fairywomble]

How old is your baby? Try staying with him and give him the reassurance that you are still there... sing to him and try to calm him down... as he gets more used to being put in his cot then gradually move yourself closer to the door each night. But don't be afraid to go back to him and give him the reassurance he needs... hes just worried that you're leaving him and that you won't come back.

[Katrina13]

Any reason not to just keep him in with you a while longer? He just doesn't sound like he is ready.

[roxannacar]

I've had and still have major sleep issues with my daughter. id suggest doing some reading about it (I found a book from the millipond sleep centre easy to read and helpful) ... there are loads. Make sure though that you put bubba down drowsy but not asleep as it seems ur sneaking out of them.

[BabyTy]

Thank you ladies very useful. I'll try a bit of everything. Fairywomble my baby is 5 months and a half.

[fairywomble in reply to BabyTy]

I would personally keep him with you for a but longer... my son didn't move out of our room till he was about 18 months old. But if you do need to move him out then make sure he is reassured you're not going to leave him forever.... I'm not a fan of the controlled crying technique! Good luck!

[BabyTy in reply to fairywomble]

Thanks. We haven't space for the cot in the room and it's at least 2 months that he is sleeping in our bed as he has outgrown the moses basket. So I feel that the longer I keep him bed the worst will be put him in his own bed. That's why I need him to sleep in his cot

[roxannacar in reply to BabyTy]

I know how you feel. Unfortunately if it needs to be done sometimes it needs to be done. I love having bubba is bed but it meant myself or my husband couldn't sleep well ..

Sometime he couldn't even get into bed due to bubba taking Up the whole bed. I tried the gentle method ... but at 3 in the morning I wasn't very good at trying a gradual approach as it took a long time to settle her if ever ... however it may work for your bubba.

I had got out of my bed by 6 months but she then got ill and ended up in bed again with me, it was definitely harder second time around when she was older.

My advice don't feel judged by others if you need to get baby out of bed, and if the cry out method is what you choose, then it's your choice. Other mothers can be quite harsh especially when they don't know your personal situation, or your baby.

Good luck

[BabyTy in reply to roxannacar]

Thank you. But I'll need to do it gradually as the cry out method it doesn't suits the both of us. I feel very bad and he feels abandoned. I rather keep him in bed longer than traumatise him x

[roxannacar in reply to BabyTy]

Lucky you have a choice... but please don't be judgemental yourself and say kids are traumatised by the CRy out method. It's hard don't get me wrong, more on the mum than the kid btw ... but i myself had this as a baby, and I don't remember any of it or had a traumatised childhood. So be careful with your choice words.

[BabyTy in reply to roxannacar]

I talked about trauma as I experienced that method with my baby and I saw the effect on him and my self. That's why I said it doesn't suits us. Being a method can suits some family and not others