Hi, I m 20w 4 days pregnant, my husband and I have quite a heated debate when it comes to breastfeeding, I m for breast is best when you can and I d like to keep breastfeeding for at least a year, him on the other hand is for using both breastmilk and formula and stopping the breastfeeding totally at 6 months as, according to him, it's just inappropriate to breastfeed a toddler.

I told him to get lost and he can stop breastfeeding at 6 months if he wants I won't mind😋

but what is usually the recommendation??


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  • You can breastfeed up to around 4 but I stopped at 18 months with my daughter mainly because she wasn't interested and prefered to drink cows milk at that point. It's whatever you feel comfortable with really.

  • Oh and my daughter is always the last one to get ill in our house too. My 2 sons didn't take to breastfeeding as well and they were hungry constantly I was sat all day and night feeding. I stopped and introduced formula with them at 6 months but their immune systems are not as good. Infact one of my son's got chicken pox at 8 months. My daughter was at nursery and literally got about 5 spots max, passed it to him. My son was covered in them. So best to breastfeed for as long as possible.

  • when can one stop breastfeeding when she is pregnant?

  • it may affect diet the baby

  • At 6 months solids are introduced anyway and breastmilk is a complement more than a main source of food also the breastmilk s composition changes after 6 months to adapt to the babies new needs.

    There is some interesting articles about breastmilk s composition changes

  • Actually most weaning sites will tell you baby still gets most of nutrients from breast milk till about 1 year. When they start solids they start small amounts for tasting. I thought I'd stop breast feeding at 6 months but bubba is 9 and latched on as we speak. It's pretty convienent when we're out and at night... And since I'm not back to work yet dont see why not! Oh for your husband ... babies don't toddle/walk at 6months so they're not toddlers!

  • Its entirely your choice when you stop feeding... your husband may like to help out with feeding, if so then you can use a breast pump and baby can have a bottle a day from him without using formula. Baby will start feeding less from 6 months when they start having food but that doesn't mean you should stop, they are still getting lots of comfort and nutrition from you.

    My son is currently 21 months old and has 2 breast feeds a day and 1 bottle of cows milk... I am also 22 weeks pregnant! I've chosen to let him decide when he doest want milk from me any more.

    Good luck with your pregnancy and feeding journey xx

  • What if he decides to continue once baby is born? Surely the milk produced can't suit the needs of a newborn and 2 year old. Just a thought

  • According to my midwife it is perfectly fine to tandem feed and both of them will get what they need. Colostrum will be produced as normal for baby. I'm still expecting him to wean himself as my milk changes for baby, but if he doesn't than that's fine too :-) xx

  • That's my plan too, if we're blessed and everything goes well and by some miracle we're pregnant again (this one was our last chance on NHS IVF but we were told that my husband's sperm count improved so there is a chance for natural conception) I initially want to feed for 24 months or until the second baby is born as it can be quite tiring to juggle both.

  • People tandem nurse very successfully.

  • Breastfeeding is a personal decision. With my first I really wanted to breastfeed and I tried for 2 weeks and honestly I hated it. I know a lot of women love it and it feels so natural but for me it wasn't like that I prefer holding my baby and feeding a bottle to him. So I didn't promise myself with my 2nd baby to definetly breast feed. I think it's something you take as it comes. You might love the idea of keeping up after 6motnhs now but feel differently when the time comes. I'm pregnant for 3rd time and I'm making no plans really I believe I'll bottle feed from the beginning as I don't feel happy when I breastfeed so that's my choice and you get to make yours on what's best for you and hopefully your husband with support you with whatever decision you make. I hope this helps and good luck :)

  • It's a very personal decision and you need to weigh up the pros and cons. I was determined from the start I was going to breastfeed but nearly gave up due to thrush and tongue tie and sheer exhaustion but once her feeding had settled down at 10 weeks, I really started enjoying it. As well as all the possible health benefits there's practical benefits as well: It's free, it's convenient and there's no faffing about preparing bottles and formula. The WHO recommends feeding until two! I would really do your research and show it to hubby. Breastfeeding is more successful if you have lots of support. All the best!

  • You need to do what is right for you! I breastfed my daughter for a year then she weaned herself off me. The recommendation is breastfeed exclusively for 6 months then start weaning but to be fair everyone I know starts weaning before then. Also it's rare to get a baby that can successfully alternate between breastfed and formula fed. Breasts are supply and demand and if you're not exclusive, you're milk supply will suffer. Also the baby may get nipple confusion cos no matter how hard they try they will never make a bottle that feels the same as the breast. You need to be confident about breastfeeding if you're gonna do it and if the hubby is gonna dismiss it, it's not going to help you. Educate him! I'm 11 weeks pregnant at the moment ( I have an 11years old and 14 year old) and I will be breastfeeding again. My decision and everyone else is supportive as they know I am passionate about it xx

  • I have just been on the WHO website. It states the following: "Exclusive breastfeeding is recommended up to 6 months of age, with continued breastfeeding along with appropriate complementary foods up to two years of age or beyond."

    Also on the NHS website: "Exclusive breastfeeding (breast milk only) is recommended for around the first six months of your baby's life. Breastfeeding alongside family foods is best for babies from six months.

    You and your baby can carry on enjoying the benefits of breastfeeding for as long as you like. Breastfeeding into your baby's second year or beyond alongside other foods is ideal."

    Nobody is a moron. I would recommend that you go on these websites before making unhelpful comments.

    Breastfeeding is a minefield. There should be no judgement.

  • Breastfeeding is a personal decision but if you do want to do it they recommend not to also give formula as it will reduce your milk flow unless you express. Your milk flow keeps up with the demands of the baby, that's why it drys up when you wean them off.

  • World health organisation recommend breastfeeding until age 2.

    Breastfeeding is a personal issue between mother and child though so it's completely up to you and baby hoe long you feed for.

    My 1st I stopped at 9 months dur to my own lack of knowledge. My 2nd stopped at 15 months and I have just weaned 3rd at 20 months.

    Do what feels right for you and baby.

  • You do what's right for you and your body. They say breast is best. I wanted to do it so did my partner. It was hard work for 2 months and every day I wanted to give up. Tried supplementing with formula at 2 months because I was feeling tired. My baby wouldn't drink it from the bottle. 4 months now and I'm glad I breastfeed. It's the easiest thing now especially at night. No need to get out of bed to make milk!

    The breastfeed lady gave me a lot of support at the weigh in clinic as I wanted to give up each day.

    Do what you feel is best for you and baby.

  • It's what ever works best for mum and baby x

  • Hi ladies I can agree and do whatever is best for us all. It's great when we get the help and support we need. I thought when I had my first little boy I'd breastfeed him but once he was born I really struggled so tried donor milk then syringing!!! Then found out when still in hospital I can't carry on doing this at home (syringing I mean) so after lots of upset and stressing, oh said just do bottles. It worked for our little boy but the guilt factor I had and got even from friends that managed to breastfeed was hard to take. Little boy is healthy 3 yr old now and no health major issues. Now delighted to have another baby boy now too. He's 7 weeks old so this time round when I knew we were expecting him I didn't stressabout the feeding do what's he prefers, but after my emergency c section and was knocked out oh had to feed him a bottle while I came round but from then and until he was about 3 weeks I exclusively breastfed, but i was exhausted really didn't want to give up but much more support from same friends to keep me going with breastfeeding and great support from hospital etc I did include the odd bottle and baby loves both, still do this now since 3 weeks and going great. Gives oh chance to feed baby while I get showered or spend time with his big brother.sorrry for massive response. Good luck to you all x

  • Wow! Switching to formula at six month does not cancel out 6 months of breastfeeding. How can you be a lactation consultant and say that??

  • Updates

    My little Oliver was 4 weeks early, he is now 9 months and i m still breastfeeding. We had a rocky start with a tongue tie but once it was sorted it was much better, i m following the WHO advice (also i m not keen on the whole waking up and making bottles malarky lazy moo) it works for me and i ve never been more comfortable with my body than since i started breastfeeding. I was worried about his food intake and that he's taking much less on the breast than before but his weight is great even for a premature.

    He s a happy healthy boy and that s what matters.

  • As a new mother i think it s safe to say that we get a baby absolutely clueless, we do our best, research it, ask friends, watch programs but when we get our bundle of joy we don t know what hit us.

    I use to assume that breastfeeding is instinctive. Put a baby on a breast and they know what to do, No we re both learning a skill. Food is eaaaasy you make it he eats it breakfast lunch dinner with few snacks, No it s still milk their first food and anything else is secondary. Also all that effort we put at researching and shipping and making a balanced meal doesn't mean anything it doesn't guarantee he ll eat it.....

    It's a learning curb and we all do what we can.

    If by the end of the day they re alive and healthy then catching it s a successful day.

    To Mummy2addie: i m so grateful my breastfeeding consultant was nothing like you or there would've been trouble. We're just another mum for you but when we go to talk to someone we are shattered emotionally and physically and people like you don't solve problems they add to it and put mums who are trying to do what's best off not just breastfeeding but asking for help too

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