Hi I am a new mum with a 1 week old newborn. My husbands mum is a very heavy smoker & he has asked her to not smoke an hour before seeing the baby (as advised by all midwives & in our NCT class),
wear a change of clothes & wash hands etc. which apparently upset her. She came to see our newborn yesterday & I thought she still smelt of smoke & it upset me to see her holding our baby.
The thing is I know she can't go an hour without having a cigarette & thinks that we are worrying about nothing as she smoked around her children when they were born, so I don't trust her not to have had a cigarette before she left home to see us (she only lives 10 minutes away).
I leave it to my husband to deal with as he will always put our baby's best interests first but at what's meant to be a happy time it's causing me a lot of stress & I dread them coming round to see the baby or the thought of a family gathering where she is likely to smoke.
Does anyone have any advice or experience on how to deal with this situation?