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this post may seem a bit odd, i'm no sure how to explain it either, but i'm feeling a bit mixed up and emotional and id like to get it off my chest and id be grateful to know if how i'm feeling is normal and if others feel or felt the same!

I absolutely love the bones of my little boy, hes almost two and he is my world, every day he makes me laugh, hes so funny and cute, i couldn't imagine my life without him, sometimes i fill up just thinking about how much i love him, i am so proud of him and i cant describe how much i love him, I've never loved anyone like i love him :')

thing is i'm currently pregnant with my second baby, i'm due in June and lately I've been worried about how i will feel when she comes along. . .

will i love her as much as i love my little boy?

will the love i feel for my little boy decrease?

or will i feel exactly the same for my baby girl as i do for my little boy?

does your ability to love just grow twice as much?

sorry if this sounds daft, its just feelings and worry's i'm getting xx

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Ronnie12

To put your mind at rest I have 11 kids and love them all! I never worried about loving another one but I know it's perfectly normal to feel like u do! I know people who didn't have another child as they were so worried they wouldn't love it as much! Love is endless and u have enough for 2 or even 11!! Enjoy your little girl 👧 and I am sure your son will love being a big brother too!! X

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Becks-734 in reply to Ronnie12

wow 11 kids!

you must be exhausted!!

im shattered with one toddler and a bump lol!!

i take my hat off to you!!

thank you foe replying, youve reassured me a bit xxx

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KellyTrip

11! Wow, impressed.

I feel the same as you. I have a 7 month old son and I worry about what will happen when I have another baby. I don't want to love them less but then I don't know how I can love someone the same. I think that when they arrive, you will just love them straight away and you will be happy to have them both. I am sure this is something most mum's go through!!

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Becks-734 in reply to KellyTrip

youve sumed it up perfectly when you said: "i dont want to love them less but then i dont know how i can love someone the same"

this is exactly how i feel!!

i know it sounds silly but its on my mind all the time, i mean dont get me wrong i love her already! but i just cant imagine loving another baby the same as i love my little boy, thanks for your reply hun, youve helped me xx

This post could have been written by me!!! This is exactly how I've felt since finding out I'm having our 2nd. My son is 2 and a half and is our World!!

I have barely even given thought to our new baby as our lives are so busy with our day to day family life and I feel that I haven't quite connected yet - I've only just had our 12 week scan so early days. I'm just really finding it difficult to imagine us as a family of 4!!

I am reassured that rather than halving the love I have for my son I will double it for the two of them ❤️. One way or another I'm certain that we'll all find our way in our new family of 4 when the time comes xx

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Becks-734 in reply to

oh bless you, its a strange feeling isnt it?

im 22 weeks now and its taken a while for me to come to terms with having another baby, part of that is because we miscarried last summer, so i was scared to get attached to this baby, we had a scan 2 weeks ago and were told were having a girl and since then ive felt more confident, as we passed the half way milestone, but i still worry about my feelings towards her etc xx

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