Hi ladies, so I posted on here a while ago about a very traumatic first birth and being terrified about my second and I had some lovely and positive responses so thank you. I did mention in my last post that I was going to book in to see a specialist midwife to talk things through and try to put my mind as rest a little (as a summary, i had an assisted birth and lost quite a lot of blood).
So I went to see the specialist midwife a few weeks ago and it was definitely the right thing to do. We talked through all my notes from the first birth and she was really reassuring and definitely helped me to feel more relaxed about the whole thing, saying that it would be fine for me to even try for a waterbirth this time around and that it was highly unlikely that anything like that would happen again etc. I left feeling happy and positive.
Further to this, the midwife also advised me to book in to see a consultant to talk through a plan of care for when i go into labour just so i was clear what i wanted. So i also went along to that appt last week and to be honest I wish I hadn't. All the consultant did was stress and worry me by saying that she recommended i be admitted to the consultant led unit when i go into labour, (previously all the midwifes had said that i would be in the midwive led unit and that i was still low risk) that i should have a canula fitted in case something happened, and also said (the first time i'd heard this during my whole pregnancy - i'm 34 weeks!) that my baby was measuring 'slight;y' big so wants me to go in for a growth scan and check for diabetes!!! I have since checked the growth chart of my bump and it's actually been plotted wrong so i am not as big as it says on the growth chart anyway! Now surely this isn't a 'plan of care'. I really wish i hadn't gone to see her and i don't want to go for the growth scan because i think she was a real scaremonger!! My mum said she was probably just trying to poach patients from the midwives!! Any words of wisdom please? anyone experienced something like this? If i hadn't gone to this appt i would still be so happy and relaxed about the whole thing!
Sorry for the looong post!