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I should be happy this pregnancy is at 16 weeks and seems to be going to plan after a run of early miscarriages, but feel so low and can't stop crying

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tazmania

very sorry to hear this. There are lots of reasons why we might not feel the excitement and positivity that we 'should' feel when we are expecting a much wanted baby. Iit may be partly hormonal so may settle down a lot by the time you reach your 2nd trimester. Perhaps you are worried underneath the a excitement, given your run of early miscarriages. But, as you say, this one is going well and has got to 16 weeks so is a very different pregnancy by the sounds of it!! Hopefully, if this is the cause, your mood will lift as your pregnancy progresses and you grow more confident about it. Or maybe worrying about a number of other things? Sounds as though you have experienced a lot of sadness so it's no wonder you're feeling low, but hang in there. It takes time for us to deal with grievances. I would also visit doc if it's been going on more than a couple of weeks because it may be prenatal depression and you don't want it to develop any further I am sure. good luck xxx

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LauraJane86

Its totally normal to feel anxious in pregnancy which can cause lots of tears. You also have hormones bouncing all over the place which doesn't always help! I have also been very emotional throughout my pregnancy due to scares and health issues so i can understand how difficult it is when you seem to cry for no reason!

I would suggest mentioning your feelings to your midwife because that's why she is there. She can give you some advice or refer you to your GP for more support.

Keep your chin up and remember we are all here if you need to get things off your chest Xx

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rachf

I also went through a low stage at 15 weeks-ish and it lasted a few weeks. The pregnancy was a surprise and although family was always part of our future plans, it wasn't part of the 'now' plan... but we decided we could make it work. Despite this, my husband wasn't really embracing the pregnancy and that just amplified my own concerns about how having a baby is going to change life. I think both of our thoughts at the time were completely normal, however, when coupled with bad morning sickness, the pregnancy hormones, and random crying outbursts (which were frequent!) I found it much harder to be positive and rational. I don't think at the time I appreciated how much was hormones.

I'm now 29 weeks and we're both feeling very different (in a good way!) I can't remember a moment that things got better but they just are. To be honest, it's only now that I am feeling excitement about meeting the baby and starting to enjoy the pregnancy, and yes I still have random moments where I feel sad and cry for no apparent reason, but on the whole I feel happier and more stable.

Basically, this pregnancy journey can be a bit of a rollercoaster, and if you're not loving the experience right now, hold tight because change could be just around the corner. You've got more reason than I had to feel down because of your past difficulties, talk to people (especially your midwife), accept help, and be kind to yourself. Your body is going through massive changes, not enjoying every step of this process does not mean you'll be a bad parent. Best wishes xx

I cried a lot during my second pregnancy, there's a lot going on in your body. If you don't want to talk to your midwife and GP you can ring the NCT helpline 0300 330 0700 option 3 for pregnancy. The NCT tag line is First 1000 days, they are there to support you from conception, so when you feel down call one of their advisors for some support, they might suggest going to your midwife but at least you'll have talked it over with someone who has the time to listen.

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Curlyk250

With your past it's definitely heightened but I'm 15 weeks and have had a terribly emotional crying week. The 1 st thing that tipped me over the edge was not having a toilet brush in the toilet we had just decorated. When I started I couldn't stop and I felt really upset. This is not normal behaviour for me so it's definitely the hormones! Just take it day by day and get more help

If you feel it is something more serious. Xx

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Dizzy20

I'd probs stay off websites and googling things too tended to do it a lot then I'd be upset but I'm like you I can't stop crying and I'm only 13weeks i put it down to changes in our bodies have a bit of you time and pamper yourself hope you feel better soon xx

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Mia_w

Feeling okay again now, sure it was I had worked myself up to the exam for my degree and then had a drop once that was done. Seeing midwife next Friday so will have a chat with her anyway.

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