That sounds like my LO described to a T! For the first 12-14 weeks of her life, she was so unsettled, cried and fussed most of the time. My dad even said that LO being awake and not crying was a rare combination, lol! My OH and I used to do the nights in shifts: he would let her sleep on him from 9pm-2am, and I would take over from 2am-7am! She wouldn't sleep for longer than 15 min in her basket... and just constantly wanted me or DH to carry her... grandparents just wouldn't do!
we took her to see the gp 4 times and she was diagnosed with possible reflux but gaviscon didn't help, and she was prescribed low dose ranitidine first, then low dose omeprazole.GP told me not to bother with food avoidances (I'm breastfeeding) because food intolerances does not exist.
Anyway, things were not getting better and my OH told me we just needed to come to terms with the fact that our LO was a grumpy/touchy baby, and we should do the best with what we'd been given.
I was still not 100% convinced so finally took the plunge and paid to see a private paediatrician at the london portland hospital, who came highly recommended by some friends.
From what I described, he diagnosed acid reflux and increased the dose of ranitidine and omeprazole.
It took about a week but the improvement has been remarkable. It's as if the cloud has lifted and my LO's true personality is being revealed. She's now 6.5 mths old and since about 5 mths, we've been going through the honeymoon period. There were lots of things we needed to do, medicines, raise the head of her mattress, I'm avoiding dairy&soy&beef, wind her upright for 20min after each feed but it's sooooo worth it. When she was 3 mths old, if you told me she would do all her daytime naps in her cot and she would sleep 11hrs straight at night when she was 6 mths old, I wouldn't have believed it.
My OH was very sceptical about paying so much money to go see a private paediatrician but has since admitted that he was wrong about LO being a grumpy/touchy baby and that it was money well spent.
So trust your instincts, mummy- if you think there's something wrong, seek help from a medical expert (I've since written to the GP surgery with a formal letter of complaint) and I've also read the Blissful Baby Expert book from cover to cover. The author (Lisa Clegg) is also a night maternity nurse, based in Essex, who gives free email advice. We had her come over to work for 3 nights to give us advice on settling techniques ( our LO was like putty in her hands) so if there isn't anything wrong medically, then seek help and advice from a maternity nurse you trust (I thoroughly recommend Lisa, even if it's just for email advice).
I was so depressed, exhausted and sometimes even resentful about what I was experiencing. Now, I can truly say I'm really enjoying this special time with my baby. Sorry for the long message, but I hope this helps you x