time of year to start a family

[stay-9022]

hi, me and my partner are planning on starting a family very soon,

I was wondering if anybody has any thoughts about what time of year they try to conceive as to what time of year the baby is born? as in try to conceive so baby is born in summer or born in winter.

x

[Hidden]

I personally never had a preference of what time of year my children were born but its known that the winter months are the most common for couples to conceive as we all need a Lil more extra warmth at this time.

x

[cheekymonkey3791]

I think that when you ttc you will just need to go with the flow as you will not know how long it will take you and when you do concieve I doubt you with worry too much about the month your baby will be born in. You might find as well that over thinking it puts the both of you under too much pressure.

I concieved twice in 2012, once in July and then again in December as I miscarried in September, my son was born the following September 2013. x

[stay-9022]

i was born in June and my sister born in December. we used to fight so much as I could have a party out in the sunshine ( if I was lucky with the sun with this British weather) and it was always so cold for her birthdays. Also she used to hate her birthday being so close to Christmas. I don't know if im over thinking things this extreme as im nervous about trying to start our family or if other people think of this before trying for a baby. x

[2princes1princess in reply to stay-9022]

Hi there, I agree with all comments made, when you fall pregnant you will just be happy my children were born in July, , November and may. It is true about the party thing! However if you do get a a winter baby there are lots ofplaces have a party ie; ball pits, hire a hall and cinema as they get older! Good luck withtrying xx

[cheekymonkey3791 in reply to stay-9022]

I am from a big family strangely enough we are pretty much all winter months!

Sisters Nov & Dec

Brother & Myself Jan (in fact he got the 1st and me the 2nd)

Brother March

A birthday is not about the season but how you celebrate it, my last 'big' one...my partner and I went to Egypt & I found out I was pregnant...how about that for a birthday present money cannot buy!

As far as pregnancy goes, each to their own I am sure, I never had sickness but suffered terribly with expanding rib pain, I was at my heaviest in July/Aug/Sept, wore light loose clothing, flip flops for my incredibly fat feet & ankles, I could not go out in the sun at all without getting a rash. I took early maternity leave due to the nature of my job and I was struggling with my pelvis so was fairly housebound on paracetamol.

I am still breast feeding and have not found weather a factor....it about finding where and being comfortable and confident to do it X

[Hidden]

I wouldn't spend anytime thinking about this. TTC can be stressful if things don't happen as quickly as you'd like without adding this extra pressure. I conceived twice in Oct/Nov but miscarried the first time. Overall it took just over 18 months to conceive a successful pregnancy so I really didn't care when the baby would be born.

[CarolineDarz]

Benefit of aiming for a spring/summer baby is that it will be nice and warm for breastfeeding! Also less chance of colds and bugs in a newborn who can't havr medicine

[icklekid]

We ttc for over 9 months in the end isn't ideal timing because I work in a school and so a lot of maternity leave is summer holiday but I couldn't care because just so happy to have conceived and baby is fine so far. Yes some people are lucky and it happens quickly but these things can't always be planned!

[Hidden]

The only things I can think of is (1) being pregnant is a bit like having a human radiator strapped to your front so some women find being heavily pregnant over a hot summer is uncomfortable (not much of a problem in this country!

Babies born in sept/October will be oldest in the class at school; those born in July/august will be the youngest.

[Cokd657]

I am in complete and utter agreement with most of these ladies replies. Unless you are very very lucky (1 of my friends was) it is unlikely that you can plan exactly and conceive in the first month of trying. My husband and I decided we would see what would happen from January 2013 and more realistically hoped that we would conceive within the year, luckily 3 times was a charm (months not goes ) and our little girl was born on NYD. However, friends of ours have taken 2 years to conceive, which is more common than you would think. So my advice, go with the flow and don't add any unneeded pressure to yourselves. Good luck!

[mummymummy]

I've never planned and only have 1 summer baby. .. which is lovely as I have a day outside in the garden with friends over etc but then again no excuse not to do that anyway. .. If u would like to sort of plan then start when u think u would like ur baby to be conceived if it happens then great but if not ur one will just be born later in the year by how ever many months it took to conceive x

[stay-9022]

Thank You all for your comments. I think its nerves and pregnancy being out of your control that is making me think of silly little things that im sure don't matter. I know I will be very grateful and happy if I manage to fall pregnant. I have crohns disease also so that's why I am thinking so far ahead and my mind is trying to plan and organise so much.

Thank you for all your thoughts x

[mummymummy in reply to stay-9022]

Sometimes things like crohns can get better as ur immune system lowers because being pregnant is like having a foreign body in ur body I hope it does for u good luck xx

[Hidden]

I think that planning ahead is the responsible thing to do...however it can take a while get pregnant so it's not really that practical. It took me nearly a year the first time (and that's not too bad) but sadly I had a silent miscarriage. This time I got pregnant at the second attempt. I'm 17 weeks now, so happy ending

Good luck

[Gail0608]

As others have said...I would try not to think too much as nature will make it happen. I understand it is hard not to get consumed with TTC and we've all been there! I tried to plan my first bit after miscarriage and taking a long time to fall pregnant I didn't actually have my daughter until 2 years after making the decision to try. Similarly I had another miscarriage before I had my son so just happened when it was supposed to I guess.

That said, both of mine were born in winter (jan and feb) and both of my miscarriages would have been due in the summer. I liked having babies in winter because although its dark and dreary it is nice as you have no reason to have to get out of your post partum slumber too soon, can stay warm inside and when you are ready to emerge into society again it is starting to get a bit nicer (if your baby comes after Xmas). I found being pregnant over winter was also nice as I didn't have to contend with hot weather, could wear massive jumpers and eat whatever I wanted without feeling like massive, heavy and sweaty.

My son was born around New Years and is now 3 months, he's getting stronger and developing lots, by the time the summer is properly here he will be a bit less dependent and will be able to sit and play more so I'm looking forward to getting out!

Good luck!!!

[stay-9022]

Thank you all for your comments and thoughts. we will just let nature take its course and see what happens for us. Thank you all x

[Highlandlass22]

I have been pregnant quite a few times and eventually worked out that the only times I got pregnant were in spring or autumn. Spring would have been winter babies and this one conceived in early autumn is due in June. Midwife said that there were times of the year that were more fertile. Good luck it's quite a journey, enjoy.