Thought I'd feel better today but I'm still really wound up. We went round for Sunday lunch yesterday and I'm not in any hurry to go back! Yet again my potential birth choices came into conversation and she wasted no time in letting me know how stupid she feels I'd be being if I went for my first choice of a home birth, then when her husband made a brave attempt to stick up for me a little bit she shot him down completely, commenting on how I'd never had a baby before basically so how could I know what's best! I'm also being tutted at left right and centre because I don't have names picked out or have the room completely ready yet- I'd like to point out that I don't know the sex of my baby yet (so what's the rush deciding) and I work from home using the spare room for storage at the mo so can't do anything with the room until I finish work! I know it all sounds pretty minor compared with what some people put up with, but most of her knowledge and views are pretty outdated considering she had her last baby in the 70s, and to be honest her only argument against home birth was that she thinks hospitals are much safer with all their equipment compared to "a midwife at home with her hand on my belly". Also apparently I need to decide quickly so I can book a bed in hospital or a midwife?!?
Truth is, I havn't fully decided what I want to do, there is a new midwife lead unit attached to my local hospital which is an option for me, as well as the standard delivery suite and home birth. The child in me is wanting to dig my heels in and choose home birth because she doesn't want me to- but I know that's not the way to make these decisions.
Anyway, sorry for the massive rant :/ and sorry if it all sounds completely ridiculas , or very naive on my part- just massively frustrated.