So we are on the run down to Christmas. By now I would normally have most my shopping done. (I'm one of those people who really doesn't like Christmas hype so I shop through the year leaving just odds and ends to do close to the day). Last year my OH did his Christmas shopping on Christmas eve! That wasn't happening again. As I've not been mobile and for once internet not been that great for ideas let him do the shopping. After curbed him in a bit to stop him buying random things then saying 'who can we give that too' (no one has enough money to do that, with a baby and a mortgage and just him working we def don't) he's actually been doing a really good job.
So why am I complaining? After he's made a huge fuss and put his foot down with everyone not to buy John loads as he won't remember and they bought us most stuff when he was born he's the one doing the buying. I know he wants to get chance to buy stuff as I think nappies was the only thing we managed to buy for him to start with, everything else was given (much appreciated but think men have this provider instinct he had a little stamped on to start). Thing is he's not consulted me once - not that he has to check in with me, but I'm being cut out of John's Christmas and don't think he realises he's doing it. We were supposed to be going to my mums for christmas and coming back up here for new year (last year we did other way - alternating each year), but she's going in hosp for an operation, which means won't see my side of family and this side got whole big family Christmas organised which I don't really have a part in. they're welcoming but it's def one of few times when I'm an outsider.
Anyways using this as a sounding board as know need to speak to him about it, just don't want to upset him. I know sounds daft but we've been together 3 and a half years now and haven't yet learned how to argue properly, don't want to start now x