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27 weeks, when do midwives start discussing your birth plan?

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I am a little nervous and not sure what to expect particularly during labour. Curious to find out when others started to discuss their birth plans and what to expect/discuss in my next few appointments with my midwife and at the hospital.

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hollie2716

i thought that they began discussing from about 28weeks onwards, but up to yet my midwife hasnt mentioned it. until this week where im 31weeks and have now been told that they dont do individual birth plans and that if i want to do one i need to attend a local group class? im unsure when this changed and was a little shocked, im not sure how you can have a personal plan made in a group setting?

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2princes1princess

Hi ladies, is there space in your notes where you can write bits? For example; want to be as mobile as you can and want baby put straight to chest...etc etc. I just jotted few really important things to me down (ones above lol) I think also don't think to much about detail and be very open minded because labour especially with your first. Is the unknown and you dont know how you will cope with. Pain. As long as you have your baby safe in your arms it doesnt matter how they get here xx

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hollie2716

yes theres space in the notes, and some really good websites out there which offer help and guides. i guess its the idea of having a 'professional' input into your experience which i think i was expecting from the midwife. its never to early to start thinking about your birth plan though, and i dont think that you particularly need help from anyone else as it could just cloud your vision of how you want your birth to pan out. just like listening to too many 'horror stories' about labour from everyone you know (who are always willing to share!) can undoubtedly make you nervous. as long as you (and your family/partner etc) have some idea of the important bits to you, like 2princes1princess says, such as putting the baby straight to your skin etc, you should be fine :)

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Kam_Rose

Thanks :)

I am just scared and nervous as i have no one to talk to really about, a few of my friends have children and all of them said there midwives helped make there birth plans.

I just want to have someone go through the options with me as i feel reading online is not giving me the full picture.

I gave birth on Tuesday and didn't have a birth plan and my midwife just said write it down on the notes bit but she also said most plans aren't worth it and its best to discuss what you want with ur birth partner as they are the ones tht wont b high on drugs and can say if something happens tht may not want ...I had preferred options of pain relief...skin to skin etc and my boyfriend knew it but because anything can happen as to which I found out so I didnt wana get my heart set on something although its nice to have an idea of how u want ur labour to be. I wanted a water birth and I got to practically giving birthbinvthe pool and my little boy pooed whilst inside me so I had to get out the pool and when he was born my boyfriend couldn't cut the cord as ge had to be taken away to have the poo sucked from him....so practically everything I wanted went out the window, I wasn't too bothered as at the end if the day my baby is here and safe and well.

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Dozymum

My midwife discussed the birth plan at 36 week appointment. There's a section in the Maternity Record just after the' Antenatal Clinic Record' -not sure if the notes are the same across NHS?

It was a very brief discussion but I was able to discuss things I wasn't sure about.

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