hey lovely people,
in sat up feeling terrible, Ewan is now 9 1/2 weeks, i have been trying a routine for the last 2 nights now, in feeding him putting him in his crib and as long as he's not crying monitor on and getting jobs done, the first night was 8.45pm tonight was 9.15pm although both nights, both nights he has gone to sleep straight away only to be up 1/2 later i check on him, make sure he's ok, put dummy back in but unless really upset i do not get him out, but we stay upstairs no lights on, little talking just reassuring him im there both nights its been 11-12 when he's finally settled then he goes 4 hours (ie why im up now) he's sleeping alot in the day even before trying this and i feel it might be because he's not getting the most out of night time, he's also awake for longer than he used to be when he wakes up in the night, i was thinking am i putting him down too early? As when he wakes first time he wants to be wide awake again as he's not really crying when he wakes up, then when he goes through the night try bringing the time forward as he will know no different then, my friend started bedtime routines with all 3 of her boys at 3 months so am i being mean on him trying to do it too early, feel like a terrible mum at the moment as i feel like im forcing him into this when he's not ready on the other hand having him sit up with me till late at night also isn't fair.
my other half (who is in the army and away all week and some weekends) suggested i go to bed with him so he settles better knowing in there but what if i manage to get him down for 8.30pm, the plan was for that to be my time to get things done (I've been doing the Xmas tree since Sunday afternoon) and a bit of me time in not half as tired as i was at the beginning as once he's settled he's only up once or twice in the night or am i being selfish with that plus when he's home he's not going to be going to bed at 8pm
he is breastfed with a formula before bed, although sometimes he's not interested and ends up finishing off on the breast but it fills him a bit more and i know how much he's had before bed
am i trying this too early on? Is he too young? Am i being mean? Alot of people are getting on at me about starting a routine
well i think that's everything
Thanks for reading
x x x