Me moaning yet again but its going to be a very long week, Well my other half did everything in his power and came home on Friday evening and we had a lovely weekend together best one for a while, He went back yesterday to Southampton and i genuinely feel that we made up for the last few rubbish weekends he has been able to get home we went Primark shopping for our little man and he now has more clothes than us, just got the little day to day, round the house outfits. We discussed money saving ideas and we have decided rather than blowing our (his) wages each month he is going to send me some on each payday and then the rest is his, im pretty sensible with money him on the other hand not so much.
Anyway thats all that sorted, Our little man is getting very active now and i love every minute of it and love every single movement just starting to get a bit uncomfortable and things arnt as easy as they were I.E putting my socks on
I am extremely close to my mum, she has had a really hard time recently not been well and she lost her 59 year old sister suddenly in March, she finally got some luck and after not being able to decide has gone on the holiday she was suppost to go on with her sister and 2 friends yesterday. She text me last night to say they have lost her suitcase i feel so sorry for her and cant stop thinking about her this holiday has already cost her so much money, money that she could have done without spending and its really upsetting me the thought of her not having any of her things and especially the medication that was finally helping. I Just feel so bad on her just wish there was something i could do
Also i have a work collegue that leaves on Friday and she has called in sick which is becoming a regular thing with her, i have to do her work as well as my own and i just dont need it
Plus i currently have 2 jobs i go from one to the other every week day working about 11 hours in total, My cousin kicked her waste of space boyfriend (father to her youngest daughter) out over the weekend, she lost her mum 3 years ago and her older brother looks after her very frail dad, she has asked me to be there with her every night this week while my mum is away just for some company and when i said i had my other job she tried to make me feel bad by saying "you said if i kicked him out you would be there for me" Also as her boyfriend was the childcare for the youngest she has now asked me to have her at the weekends, (my only 2 days off) and my other half is only home at te weekends, she said if she cant work she cant pay her bills as she only works weekends, also its good practice for me and my mum can help me, its not the point im working 55 hour weeks and the weekends is the only time i get with my man as he is away all week i dont want to be looking after someone elses child i wouldnt mind but she wont even offer me anything for it, and i will be out of pocket if i take her child out with me but she literally has noone else, she doesnt care that i will be tired anyway and my mum isnt her biggest fan as she puts on me to much emotionally and financially but mum isnt gonna give up her weekends either but she just doesnt see it like that, she sees it as im not working saturdays and sundays i should help. She is very abrupt and will fall out with me if i say no, but i know my fella isnt gonna want to work all week and spend his weekend looking after someone elses child.
Am i being selfish or is she putting too much on me?
Sorry for a long boring post yet again
Hope everyone else is well
x x x