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well....i went to the hospital on friday. the scan i got at the small hospital wasnt as advanced as the one i got on fri at the main hospital. there is not only fluid on the back but round the head and tummy too. all my tests have came back fine no downs or anything but there is something seriously wrong. we have been told to make a decision quickly as the baby may die and i have to deliver a stillborn or i may carry full term and it lives for a week. will have major heart defects etc. so over the weekend we have decided to fone this morning and get an appointment to let our wee petal go. its so hard when the heartbeat is so strong and the wee arms and legs are moving about. i was so possitive with all these tests coming back clear to just shows you.n as i said this will be my last blog so if anyone replies to this it will get read and will be appreciated but this is it for us. thanks again and hope everything goes good for you and your families.

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Allyemo1985

I was hoping to hear from you again. I hope everything goes well at the appointment and you continue to have support form friends and family. Wishing you the best at a difficult time. Allyemo1985 xx

Oh bless you I am so sorry to hear that must be so heartbreaking for you. ..xx

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lou42

I'm so sorry to hear your news, that's an absolutely tragic decision to have to take. I hope the appointment goes as smoothly as it can do for you, and wish you and your family all the best. Xxx

thinking of you at this sad time .

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k44tew

Hi Kara1,

I've been following ur story and I'm so sorry it's got such a sad conclusion. I've been in the same situation myself and had to make the same decision. It is the hardest choice, especially when u do see baby growing and moving around, but despite how painful this is for u, the alternatives are even more unbearable.

Don't go through this alone. I was never offered any form of counselling and in the end i demanded it, over a year later. I'm so glad i did as i was eventually able to make peace with what happened and begin to heal. If its not offered to u, ask for the help. In time it does help.

I'm so sorry for ur loss, if u ever want to talk feel free to msg me. Take care of urself.

T xxx

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Stace87

So sorry hope u get all the surport u need x

so sorry to hear of ur decision, another angel in the sky too soon. as above I hope u r able to get support. take care x

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gingerbaby

Sorry to hear your story, nothing can change our love for them even before they are conceived. All the best in the future to you xx

Oh my goodness, what a heart breaking post and such devastating news for you both :(

I'm so sorry to hear what has happened :(

Look after each other xx

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Megzey

OH no how sad for you and your family. In your heart you know what the right decision is however devastating it is for you. Take care and we are all thinking of you :-(

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Ljameson

So sorry to hear what has happened. Ur in my thoughts xx

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Envgirl

Thinking of you both at this sad time. So sorry to hear your news x

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Robster

Kara1

I'm so so sorry that you've had to make this decision.

You have been through such an emotional turmoil. If it was not meant to be it wasn't meant to be. I'm just sorry it's happened this way.

Your loss has made me realise how precious and special everyday is.

Thoughts are with you

Rob x

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Ance81

I am so sad to read your last blog, what an awful thing to have to go through. my thoughts are with you and your family xxx

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kara1

i know that was my last blog but just to say thanks for all the kind thoughts from everyone of you. he or she is in heaven now with his other siblings. as i have had 2 miscarriages before and i know my nan will be looking after them. got a memorial service coming in the next few weeks and family and neighbours have been great. thanks again girls ...and boys xxx take care of your wee ones xxx

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