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My daughter is 2years 7months old and is pretty much a master at using the "big girls toilet" accept when it comes to going number two. Do any of you other parents out there have any tips on how we can get her to go?

She is excellent at sitting on the toilet, wiping, flushing and washing her hands, but she seems to save going number two for during the night when she is wearing her nappy.

I have said to my partner maybe she will get it more when she is a little bit older and understands more, but we would be appreciative of any tips you may have that worked for you and your little ones.

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Megzey profile image
Megzey

My friends little boy who was a year older than my lad was exactly the same as your little girl but he wouldn't just save them up for night he would just do it in his pants in the day. She was at the end of her tether with it and really did go mad and I dont think he even cracked it until he went to pre-school, they are all different.

When you take her upstairs to bed and put her on the potty maybe let her sit on it and be calm but tell her she needs to do a poo before you will read her a story. Make it a routine. I dont know what else to suggest but can imagine how frustrating it is.

I have got all this to come at the end of the year with my 2nd.

My friend had a nitemare with her boy he kept going off and hiding to do one i his pants but was fine doing wees sooo frustrating just keep persevering another friend said u need to keep putting ur child on the toilet every half hour! I couldn't do that but maybe give them something to eat to take their mind off it i know it's not nice to eat on the loo but I found it worked for my children xx

my son was the same 'everybody poos ' its a book on amazon I highly recommend it ! its a bit crass but it worked for us after everything else failed ! he still loves it even now , hes 3 1/2 and loves taking it to nursery 2 read , the other kids love it 2 .

my son was scared of it ! so had to reassure him its ok and everyone does it , he would keep his poo in even though I know he wanted 1 , as soon as we put his bed time nappy on he would poo ! also we had a toy he wanted as an incentive , where he could see it but not get it , when he asked for it he was told - do a poo and you get the toy ! obviously we made a big fuss when he 1st did 1 and he got the toy but he was still unsure so had 2 have small 'toy prizes' he could pick from a few times after, then when he started squeezing little 1s out 2 get a new toy the prizes went to biscuits , sweets etc

we tried showing him we did it , regular tries on the potty , trying to keep him on the potty and distract him , potty training reward books , dvds anything u can think we probably tried .

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Allyemo1985

This sounds ridiculous but it worked for both my two. Mine used to hide when doing number two, so I'd wait till they finished then say ok let's change and have a wee wee on potty.

Now the trick is to be quick don't let them see you, whether using loo or potty pop the number two in there and put child on loo/potty wait a minute and say oooo. Well done you did a poo poo :-)

my two where instantly made up by this then we flushed down the toilet and say bye bye to it. Lol kids fear went instantly. Xx and after a few days they started to just poo on the potty. Xx

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Megzey in reply to Allyemo1985

That's so funny.

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Allyemo1985 in reply to Megzey

lol xx

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earthchild

This all sounds fantastic. I've yet to start potty training with my 18 month old but I'm so nervous about it all. My annoyingly interfering parents have been trying to push me into starting it since she was 6 months old! They're convinced that me and my sister were both out of nappies at 12 months. Very frustrating and not helping with the anxiety of starting it. :-/ X

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Megzey in reply to earthchild

I know how you feel. My little boy is 22months and my mum said 'I would let him run round without his nappy on now' I was like wtf, yeah and I will ring you when I can't get the skids off my cream carpet.

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Allyemo1985 in reply to Megzey

Ha ha brilliant just pop him round your mums with no nappy on :-) sure she'd love that. It's ok if you in the garden and its nice but very rarely to us Brits get the chance :-) x

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earthchild in reply to Allyemo1985

Haha.

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dons88

I'm on day 3 of potty training my son - he's 28 months. He usually poos several times a day but we've just had his first one since Monday!

In his case I think patience was the problem - he didn't want to sit on the potty long enough to have one! I built his train set around his potty and choo-choo'd a train around him, then read a story. By the time I'd finished, he'd relieved himself!

Good luck to those of you just getting started, don't even try until you think they're ready - it's not something you can force. A sticker chart is working wonders for us :-) x

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earthchild

Yeah she's so not ready. Got lots of great ideas now for when we start. We've had the potty around since she turned 1 and we used to sit her on it first thing in the morning when we would use the toilet so she made the association. Now its collecting dust in the living room but she sits her toys on it every now and then. Refuse to believe she's ready when she can still happily run round with a big poop in her nappy and not tell anyone lol. Thanks for sharing all your tips and tricks. :) X

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Allyemo1985 in reply to earthchild

You'll know when she's ready :-) you never know she may like the big girls toilet better than a potty just like mummy. Good luck with it Hun whatever you do once you start you have to continue otherwise she'll get confused. Xx

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jay1987

My daufhter went through exactly the same woulf hold it all day until bed time until she was relaxed enough. U tried stilling her on the toilet and reading her a story to take her mind off having a poo it worked for a while and ended up back at sqaure one the I noticed her stools were quite hard had a bit chat and she said it was so to have a poo. I took her to the docs explaied the situation and they but her on movicol powers to put I her juice to soffen her stools after a few days on them and explained what they do I tried her on the toilet as I could tell she was desperate for the toilet when she did it its wasnt t painful for her at all I kept her on them for a while and she goes no problem now every so often she holds it but I no now that it must be uncomfortable for her so a other movicol it is. Hopr this helps. Xx

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CassB

theres various books that can help such as Peek-a-Poo [Paperback]

Guido van Genechten, worked well for me and my son. also recommend visiting the brollysheets uk site for further advice. goodluck!

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MummyHappy

I know that there’s a lot of methods and authors and that the subject is not the easiest one but I potty trained my three kids with the same guide "How to make your child love going potty" by Susan Urban and it just went great. Step by step instructions on what to do and how to do it. What convinced me was the fact that this guide is in a nutshell so it is short. In an hour I knew how to deal with the problem. Can really recommend it. I found the guide on I guess the author's website: parental-love.com

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Kim987 in reply to MummyHappy

I followed the same guide with my son and it really worked for us so I can recommend it as well.

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