My Mom

[TracyBelle]

I had the RARE opportunity to go shopping today for a new Easter dress. Kohl’s had emailed me coupons and I haven’t shopped for myself in years. The problem was that I always shopped there for clothes for my mom to wear at the nursing home. Everything I brought her would disappear especially her bras. I spent 4 years trying to make sure that my mother had a bra on everyday , even if that meant I had to go buy her more. It was an issue of dignity for me. I couldn’t even bring myself to shop in some areas of the store.

How long will I grieve this way?

Sorry that had nothing to do with MS.😬

[jimeka]

Tracy, it’s natural for you to have those feelings and it has a lot to do with ms. Ms makes us more sensitive, emotional, and I find it better when I share how I feel.I lost my mum over 6 years ago and every time I go past her house, I always look for her, as I always remember her waving through the window. Your memories of your mum will never fade, as the love that you have in your heart for her will not die. Take care and enjoy shopping for yourself alittle retail therapy is good for us all. Blessings Jimeka 🤗

[carolek572 CommunityAmbassador]

I am not certain that anyone can answer that for you. Even after 15 years, I still am sad that my mom passed, but I have more times when I can remember her and smile.

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I lost my mom 17 years ago. I'm well past the intense grief, and yet I miss her more the older I get, if that makes any sense. I talk to her at night when I'm laying in bed and can't sleep, and I feel she is near. It is very comforting. She got sick and died unexpectedly over a period of about 4 months and after she was gone I was suddenly aware of how much I took for granted. Every relationship is unique and so is the processing of grieving those we've lost.

[RoyceNewton]

Tracy, easy answer here. Forever, Mothers never leave us I think

[erash]

I believe we grieve deeply only when we have cared so deeply.

Maybe think of it not as I have this heartache but I get to have this heartache because I cared and it’s a time to remember and be with her.

I don’t think there’s a time limit on grieving. 😢

Sending hugs

[Jesmcd2 CommunityAmbassador]

TracyBelle you are more than welcome to talk about your mom here! We love you hun!🤗💕

J🦈

[greaterexp]

Grief seems like such a jagged path. I hope that there are memories that bring you joy even as you work through the tough times.

[rjoneslaw]

it's natural to go on emotional roller rides. So it's ok to feel that way

[goatgal]

Tracy, For everyone, the grieving process goes in stages of varied duration. Think of the Parkland survivors still so traumatized a year after losing friends and classmates. Think of the Columbine survivors and parents still processing that awful day twenty years later. Our memories of those we have lost for what ever reason may diminish in intensity, but they do not vanish. My father died 44 years ago, but certain sounds or outdoor vistas still evoke intense memories. The grief I felt at his death is muted, but I still miss his living presence in my life. You loved your mother, caring for her thoughtfully, maintaining her dignity at a time when she could not. Of course you remember her, and of course you have emotions connected to those memories. I see this as perfectly normal. We come to life as unique individuals, and though there may be similar patterns as our lives unfold, we experience and process everything that occurs in myriad singular ways, sometimes vastly different. I hope this forum will always be a safe place to share experiences, memories, griefs, and concerns. MS may have brought us together, but when we wish to share, we mustn't let MS keep us from touching other hearts.

[kycmary]

Tracy my mom has been gone since Dec. 1972 I miss her all the time but instead of being sad I chose to rejoice that I her & enjoy my memories of her!!

[mrsmike9]

I get it...I really do.