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The touch of covid

I feel that I need to talk to someone and I know your always here for everyone

My 98 year old mum fell and broke her hip and I was told she might not survive an operation to repair it . I was prepared for the inevitable but survive she did and was trying her best to get mobile Then came the news she had a blood cot in the lung and a lung infection and the next day I was told she had contracted COVID in hospital as well . She fought bravely for 3 weeks but lost the battle on New Year’s Day . I wasn’t able to be with her as I’m 100 miles away and shielding but my brother braved the COVID ward and saw her before she died . Yes she was old and blind and almost deaf , stubborn and challenging sometimes but had the heart of a lion and kindness too and most of all she was my mum and I will miss her

My heart goes out to all affected by these challenging times and my hopes are for a long awaited light at the end of the tunnel

Thankyou for being here and all good wishes for this new year to you all

Pippa

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Pippa, my heart goes out to you too. I'm so sorry you have lost your mum. I lost both my parents in 2012 with only 6 weeks between them and dad died on xmas day. It's so hard I know and time does help. Dont be scared to grieve properly for her, you obviously cared for her very much and I'm sure she did for you too. Soon you will remember all the good times you had with her and be able to laugh about any funny moments. Thinking of you, post again if you need more support.xx❤

Thankyou so much and I’m sorry for your loss too

Thank you Pippa. I did a lot of my grieving before they died as mum had dementia and dad was failing too. Mum was hospitalized and dad was on his own. He was so miserable without mum that he was going downhill fast. The only way I could bring them together again was to put them in a home but mum held it against me - I know some of it was the dementia speaking but still heartbreaking. Mum died first and dad just sat in a chair, not eating, drinking, etc so I was actually relieved when he died 6 weeks later and they were together again and not suffering. Xx❤

That’s very sad. You did your best to keep them together in a difficult situation. I feel slightly relieved too that mum is not having to fight anymore

Keep well x

You will have done all you can too. After a few months, I started to find it easier to accept that I was lucky to have had them for so long (dad was 92 and mum 88) and also dwell on the happier times and funny moments. I still had my dark days but they became less and less. Hope this happens soon for you too. X😻

Really sorry to read this, im not great with words but wish you all the best.

Paul

Thankyou Paul

My thoughts are with you..keep strong Pippa.

Thankyou Inca

Pippa, sending you and your family heartfelt condolences. How utterly cruel this disease is!

I can’t imagine how you feel, but I do hope that you’re able to find some consolation that your brother was able to be with your Mum before she passed away.

We’re here for you. ❤️ Xx

Yes it was comforting to know she had someone to be with her Thankyou

So very very sorry - it is heartbreaking the devastation caused by this awful disease and the isolation to loved ones. My condolences to you and your family. Anne-Marie.

Thankyou Anne-Marie

Oh, Pippa, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Your mum sounds like a fighter and no matter how old they are when they pass, it’s still very hard. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Thankyou so much

Thinking of you and your warrior mum Pippa 💚

Thankyou Sarah. I think she was a warrior to the end

My sincere condolences to you Pippa.Judy ❤️

Thankyou Judy

Pippa, I'm so sorry to hear that you've lost your mum -- and in such difficult circumstances as what you've described. I love your description of her -- she sounds like a strong woman and a good mother to you. Thanks for telling us about her and I hope you turn here whenever you need to. Take good care, with prayers and wishes for peace for you in this new year. Kim

Thankyou Kim. This forum is a great help

Oh I felt every word and I am so sorry for you and your family and I’m sorry your mum had to go through all that but she is no longer suffering now. I wish you strength and peace during your grief and this next year of fighting the very thing that ultimately took your mum. Be safe Pippa and be well !!! 🙏🏻❣️

Thankyou for your kind words. Keep safe

Dear Pippa,

I can't imagine how you are feeling, just ghastly I guess maybe take some strength from the fact you are not alone.

Thankyou Cassandra

Dear Pippa. Sorry to hear this news. Take care. Jx

Thankyou Jlah

So sorry Pippa to hear about your mums passing, so very sad, it sounds as if she fought to the very end.You must give yourself time to grieve, and talk about her with family and friends, this will keep her spirt alive, it’s sounds as if she was a true lioness and the heart of the family.

God bless

Jean

Thankyou Jean

Pippa, So sorry to read your post, it is something I and my wife have both avoided, luckily this past autumn. My mother, who has been bedbound for 2 years and now 93 had covid, brought into her house by a carer, she was quite ill with it and passed it onto my sister who was able to be tested and confirmed, while my mother was not allowed to be tested due to not having an online presence or a credit rating!. They are both over it now. My wife's mother 86 broke her hip in October trying to support her 87 year-old husband as he fell in their kitchen. Because we were all shielding and not visiting she managed 10 days before I got her GP involved by telephone,she had a new hip next-day! And is now back to normal, luckily not catching covid in the hospital, which is what we dreaded might happen.It's not very nice to be told by GPs that your parents are very old and they won't last forever. Even if it's true, the care for a patient seems to evaporate from the GP when a certain age is achieved. Wishing you all the best.

Thankyou so much It’s so nice to read that all was well in the end for you. Take care

Hi Pippa, just an update. My in-laws both were vaccinated last week, and are well, my mother was vaccinated yesterday afternoon, and is feeling very ill since last evening. Due I imagine because she had already had the virus in October. I hope you are coming to terms with the loss of your mother. I fear my mother might just give up, she sounded so ill just now.

Thankyou

I do hope your mother recovers and doesn’t give up , it’s such a worry for you . Good to hear your in-laws are doing well

It’s my mother’s funeral on Friday so I’m hoping things will become a little easier to come to terms with after that

I hope you are keeping well in these trying times

Take care

Pippa

Thank you Pippa, hope all goes well for you tomorrow. Joyce, my wife and myself will be thinking of you tomorrow. My own mum has recovered from the vaccine as far as I can tell over the phone!

My condolences to you at this very sad time. The loss of your mother is so traumatic my thoughts and prayers are with you.💖

Thankyou so much

So very sorry to hear this. Thinking of you xx

Thankyou very much

So sorry for your loss Pippa. Heartbreaking that you couldn’t be with her due to this awful disease. 💔

Yes that was the hardest to deal with but Thankyou for your. Kind words

No matter that she was old and had other medical issues she was your mum. She was lucky to have her son with her. Take comfort from that. I know you have a lot of stress facing you . A funeral to plan and an estate to settle. All made more difficult by this darn virus. May it all be achieved with minimal anguish..Xxxxxxxx

Thankyou so much. Yes it is stressful as it is for many at these difficult times

I am sorry that you have had to experience this in what are already such trying times. Sadly a third of all Covid infections are being caught in hospital, my next door 80 yr old neighbour fell and fractured his femur before Christmas and he too has Covid, he's still there. My daughter cares for a 95 year old who snapped her hip. She neither wanted to go to hospital or have surgery but the GP insisted. She too has the heart of a lion but again, against her wishes she's now in residential and not allowed visitors, her mental health wasn't good beforehand so lord alone knows what it's like now. These are cruel times and I feel greatly for anyone who's been unlucky enough to be caught up in the chaos. Stay strong lovely lady, your mother clearly raised a great daughter 👍🏻

Thankyou very much. Challenging times for many

I did not realise a 1/3rd of Covid cases were contracted in hospital. That’s horrific, Thank you.

That's terrifying,thought there were separate wards for Covid.

So sorry for your loss♥️

Thankyou

So sorry to hear your news. Will be thinking of you. X sally

Thankyou Sally

Xxx

Thankyou

So sorry to hear of your loss Pippa.my husband is in hospital now went in with sepsis and now has covid there seems to be no escaping it.We just pray everything will be OK.I will be thinking of you.x

Thankyou for your kind reply So sorry your having to deal with the illness of your husband I sincerely hope all will be well for you

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. Every best wish to you and your family. Thinking of you.x❤

Dear pippa, my heart goes out to you. I am typing this with tears in my eyes and a knot in my stomach. I lost my mum two years ago age 98 and the loss is still great and lonely. I do however believe what the bible says about the hope for the future for families like ours under Gods kingdom, and the condition of our sleeping ( dead ) loved ones. Pippa when you are ready go on line and type in JW.Org there you will find truth and comfort. My sincere condolences.

Thankyou I’m sorry for your loss of your mum too. Thankyou for advice about going on line I will try it

Amazing kindness from so many Pippa. We are in France & our only daughter in U K,the awful pain of not being near her thru this virus is really affecting hubby & I,so I know absolutely how you are feeling,once upon a time we just got in the car + dogs and got back to U K any time.,or she came to us .My fear now is that I may never be able to be back to her ....us being old timers now .Keep safe and strong,your mum was a strong lady she would not want you to feel guilty of not being at her side.We are all with you .Sally.

Thankyou It’s difficult for those of us that can’t be near our family , hopefully soon that will change Hope your keeping well

I am so sorry for your loss, it’s so very difficult being far away from our loved ones.

Thankyou Many of us are feeling the same. It’s so nice to have a forum of supportive people to talk to

I can offer prayers and send love to you. Wish there was more. 🌹💕

Thankyou that’s so kind

You and your family will be in thoughts and prayers. I hope it brings comfort to know that your Mum fought a good fight, but now is beyond the cares and trials of this life. All the best to you and your family in this difficult time.

Thankyou so much

So sorry to hear about your beloved Mum, it doesn't matter how old or infirm they are it is still a shock to the system. My mother passed away nearly 30n years ago but I miss and talk to her every day. Try to think of her with a smile on your face and in your heart. XX

Thankyou. Yes lots of things about her to smile about

I am so sorry for your loss Pippa and no matter the age of mum, she was your mum and loss isn't easy - my thoughts are with you x

Thankyou for your kind words

So very sorry to hear of your loss, it must be very traumatic. Your Mum sounds like a wonderful person who fought with all her strength to the very end. We could all take a lesson from her life's story. Best wishes to you and your family going forward.

Thankyou She did fight very hard as many others are doing Let’s hope they win their battle and normality will return soon

Dear Pippa, please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of your lovely Mum. How awful to get Covid in hospital when she had bravely got over her hip operation. You have our love and support. 🙏🙏 Fran xx

Dear Pippa please accept my sincere condolences for the sad loss of your Mum and the heartbreaking circumstances of her passing. She sounds very much like my neighbour Cath who is in her 90s but still lives independently despite several major setbacks. They made her generation of strong stuff and deserve our humble admiration for their fighting spirit especially when you think of what they've lived through. Chris

Thankyou

I have followed your transplant journey

Hope your keeping well

I am so sorry for you, losing your mum, and in such difficult times so that you could not see her. My thoughts go out to you x

Thankyou

Dear Pippa, so very sorry to hear your sad news, sending you love, Maz x x

Thankyou

Sending sincere condolences for your loss Pippa. It was six years ago today I lost my mum to Hospital acquired Sepis. Its even harder when they pass with something they originally did not go in Hospital with. Sending virtual hugs. Tina.xx.🤗

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