Lonely and Trapped

[sb2021]

Im 27 a muslim and live in London, I feel lonely having to be the default parent responsible for everything. my Childs father doesn't help with nursery runs which is fine I can cope but its the constant begging him to do something with his child on the weekends and get off his phone and just focus on his child that bugs me, he makes excuses saying he's going to work or he didn't hear his child shouting a million times for him and then goes and meets his friends. my child or I would ask him a few times to spend time together but he's too busy , but when his friends call he straight away runs. It would be so nice to go see the 1 friend that I have without being question on what time I'm coming back. I feel lonely I feel stuck my child is literally my best friend and I can't imagine. He's so lucky he has a social life, he does not understand how stressful and lonely it can be to be the lone parent doing everything. he doesn't want to go to family counselling and he doesn't want to communicate without shouting or saying I'm always the problem, he cannot talk to me maturely and its draining the life out of me.

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Hello B.

As you know I have no children and in many ways it can sometimes be very sad.

Sometimes Hazel makes the error of putting the lead on me instead of the dog to get me to go out. The problem is cocking my leg these days is quite impossible Lol.

Sometimes I wonder if we are both out of the ordinary, we go every where together and we never really have solitary times alone, we live for the day together.

BOB

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I really feel the problem you have is part of your husbands belief, however it is important your, children and both you and husband have time out together the problem is I suppose you cannot teach an old dog new tricks unless you can become persistant and explain His family has needs and expectations that do not revolve His Pals. If He fails to take an interest in His Children and you He is missing something He will never be able to make up that time again and He will be at a loss to get that time back

I have travelled a great deal in Islamic States and I understand the Man of the house has very little interraction with His Children and Wife. However it can be different in the West men spend more time with their Children. He needs to understand He is very lucky having children and Wife, I would have loved to have children

BOB

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I am having problems at the moment B. Going through a great deal of pain and unable to assist in places where I normally able to give a hand. Even taking Pax out for walks is very sore, I twisted mysef when I nearly fell on the beach. Nearly went fishing.

I hope you are well and managing well, Hopefully tmorrow we are going out to view a garden. It is always wonderful to get out and about together.

BOBxx