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[Spaceman17]

I had a bit of a hard time the last lockdown and didn't tell anyone about it. The longer lockdown went on the more afraid I was to go back to reality I can't really explain it. I was with someone before lockdown and lost them during the course of it. We work together and when we came back I found she had moved on. I thought I'd be ok with the thought of her moving on but I really haven't been, I really miss the connection we had and I can't seem to stop thinking about it. It's been 4/5 months and I can't stop thinking about it, I get anxiety thinking about her starting a life with someone else or moving in and having kids with someone else. I've tried to move on but I just can't. I've tried moving jobs not because of her but because I want to move on and I keep having set backs. I'm usually a really positive person like I read a lot of self help books even before I started feeling this low but nothing seems to be helping. I find myself breaking in to tears a lot which I never have done before. I just want to feel happy again but I just don't know who to talk to about all this because I feel like I sound pathetic!

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Hello Welcome, When this virus appeared many people felt the same way, we were all restricted to going out and being unable to meet people who were not in the same household. It is a shame and I feel for you what has happened to this relationship. However understand with or without this virus things like this happen any way and we all have to go out and look for someone new.

This is part of Life, I am only surprised She has moved on when everyone was initially restricted. Consider it may be a blessing and you may meet someone new when we all have these injection courses

I do feel sorry regards this loss. When the virus arrived there was no forming of these bubbles of people, that was only brought about around Christmas. I am seventy and my wife and I have no-one to form that bubble with, however these meetings have been stopped

BOB

[EspressoBeans]

You do not sound pathetic. You sound human. I hate toxic masculinity, which says that men shouldn’t be allowed to show (or feel) emotions. It’s bullshit and it’s unhealthy. Talking to people on here may help you to realize that you’re not alone (and you’re really not. Many, many others are feeling it too). But I highly recommend some sort of therapy as well. Depression stemming from an event (such as your breakup) can be worked through by talking about it with someone who knows how to navigate the territory.

And can I reiterate again? You are not and do not sound pathetic. Mental health is health. Sometimes it needs treatment in the same way as the body does.