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is it okay to want to disappear or to just to escape your life

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I’m just feeling out of shape and my anxiety isn’t bad, it’s just making me want to go away and focus on myself and it just constantly puts me in a mood or a funk. is it okay to do that?

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I moved on away from all my family about seven years ago and it did set me free. The problem now, my Mother died, a real Harpy so now my family have found me, remaining two Sisters, Really unpleasant and they need to project my Mothers wishes and they are making a meal of it. Eventually it will end and I will return to my peace once more. Eventually we may need to move again. I am getting to old to move again

Yes getting yourself out of the flack can and will help, and it does work

BOB

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Bob I actually told mine to stay away, or call me prior to any visit, thankfully they did as I asked and didn't take umbrage

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I am pleased you have been able to cut away. Over the the year I broke away many times, the last time lasted for eight years until my Mother Died. However that dictated my family to come and get me. I had tried to hide although the County Council told them where I was even though I was on the register not to be found.

I am now going through the my Mothers Will and my Siblings are trying to disinherit me.

My Siblings are younger than me, My Father was frightened of my Mother and sisters and would rather back down to the three of them. So I was warned by Him not to come back because I was being hurt all the time.

Get yourself out of the County you are living in, Disconnect and run for the hills

BOB

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Bob the Council have broken the DATA protection act! Even a runaway over 16 years of age can just tell the police or social services that they are okay but do not want their family or friends to know their Whereabouts! As long as an official has seen them in person and they are of sound mind ,the officials are only allowed to state that you have been seen by them but as you want privacy they can not tell them where you were seen! I would sue them if it had happened to me! ( I was not at the time I was found, of sound mind as I had had a breakdown)

That's what I used to do. Take time off from life go elsewhere for few days just to regain my focus energy organise my thoughts etc. Because or else I struggle mentally and I'm the worst version of my self feeling trapped in my head body life.

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Delzek

Hi Sarah, I did Disappear for a long time ,the thing is I don't know if it was a Deliberate move or if it was due to my Breakdown, I had a great job but had to leave due to medical reasons, (physical) I moved back into my house in my home town, Started a good business had almost everything I wanted and needed. The pressure became too much I was working 18 hour days falling asleep in my office and rarely going home, my Mother who had been my rock tried to get me to slow down same as my Brother and Sisters + my Partner Mary, I took it as interfering, Then after over a year of no one knowing where i was(I didn't even know Who I was) I was found in Brighton East Sussex! I had to undertake a psychological evaluation and was in hospital for a while, My Younger Brother had been running my company while I was AWOL, so when I was better and left hospital I sold my house gave my Brother my Company and Moved away ! I can honestly say it was the best thing I could have done! My Mother sadly passed, and my Brother and Sisters don't molly coddle me anymore, they leave me to do my own thing, I no longer have much money I rent my flat, I don't have the pressure to prove I can make it since leaving the Forces, I have my Parrots and Parakeet friends who make me not only care for them but also myself. I hope you think before you decide because some people need their Family support whereas people like me enjoy solitude, be Happy in whatever you do Decide. All the best Derek

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Bonkersy

I have nothing to do with my family outside of my husband and children. It's had a really significant I.pact on me.

If you just want a short term break,why n o t go on a retreat in a convent or a Buddhist retreat?

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