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Narcissistic parent.. that's it 👌

Buhbs
Buhbs

That was pretty straight to the point lol but seriously

How do you guys who dealt with this, deal with them?

I'm just looking for new ways to go about life efficiently

without allowing that to affect me in anyway..I mean the

gaslighting..ooF

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Honestly, just ignore them. I know its difficult especially when they're always in your presence or getting involved in your life and being judgemental etc. But, just do it. Don't argue about it , don't talk to them unless you have to or know its going be a non-toxic conversation.

Buhbs
Buhbs
in reply to nimsaythegod

The way i read that first sentence made me laugh way too hard..

I mean that was so just..straight to the point and i loved it. Anyhow

Thank you for the answer. I do my best to ignore them in such a way

that doesn't taint my aura..if that makes sense

Walk away, you need to protect yourself and move on.

Depending on your age, if under eighteen the problem is more pronounced.

The problem is it can be a means to control and then will try you not to move on and will possibly bad mouth you to any family and friends.

Yes it is a form of abuse and they can attack any good feeling you feel about yourself and any people associated with you.

As soon as possible move out and ghost them hopefully they will not try to find you although in my case they found me and that ruined the life I had built up for myself.

Remember because of this, you may not see the person again although possibly they can wreck relationships behind your back

Run for the Hills

BOB

Buhbs
Buhbs
in reply to borderriever

Oh, well I am 20.

I am not able to just move out right now.

I mean ofc I can run away from home but lol

you know..

borderriever
borderriever
in reply to Buhbs

Buhba

You are to comfortable and it is a a cheap place too live, However you need to ask yourself if you are outstaying your welcome ?

In many countries at twenty you are an adult and given that you need to be in your own place so you can spread out and take over those responsibilities , Consider how much you can expand your Life staying with family, complications will arise and will be hard to rectify. In other words you have outgrown past needs and now it is time to approach adult expectations

The biggest error I made was the life I lead from being eighteen, life became complex I was at the family home only to lay my head, I generally ate out with later expectation of having Sunday lunch this upset the household as they tried to control my adult needs and expectations. In other words I had to move on as a progression to full adulthood.

Parents can have real problems when their children reach adulthood and start making errors, in the learning period to been adult. This can cause friction and bad feeling.

I did not leave home completely until I was twenty six years old and by that time I had outstayed my welcome that eventually spread into my sixties

BOB

Buhbs
Buhbs
in reply to borderriever

Spread into your sixties? (you dont have to answer that btw)

Anyhow, no worries I have no plans to stay. I never felt like my

home was a home..literally probably forever but um..I've always

wanted to own a home/apartment/move out of my house at a

decent age for where i am. I know I will be fine 💜

I have big plans in life, im not exactly conventional😂

borderriever
borderriever
in reply to Buhbs

I was in many ways like you independent in so many ways, that upset my family in many ways, they had problems understanding me and it took time to set myself up and move on. My Mother resented me until She died at 92 years old, they say the good die young ?

All I can really say do your own thing, keep it legal and never lie

Be your own man, you will however loose that when you get married Lol

Keep a hold

BOB

Buhbs
Buhbs
in reply to borderriever

Oh honey I am a sag, I WILL NEVER lose my self.

Besides that's a fear of mine considering what i've

dealt with and I dealt with a lot up to this age, I am

working on a few things..some things I never even

spoke of, somethings i keep unwrapping and find my-

self saying"Oh, I guess i blocked that out, let me work

through that" I'm gonna survive and I'm gonna thrive.

I AM thriving and I realize more everyday of how strong

I amand that I even have a mindset of (everyone i encount

-er good and bad is a learning experience..I would gladly

befriend and old bullyas long as they changed lol but

anyway what I want to say again is THANKYOU

Thankyou for your replies, I really appreciate it

I'm sure you're helping many people 💜

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