Is cooking is everything

[Shilpa08]

As I am women so is cooking food everything if I don’t like it and I don’t want to do it does that mean I am with nothing as I can’t feed my in laws and husband

[CanuckAnon]

You are not nothing... you don’t enjoy cooking... I’m sure there are many things you are good at... what kind of things do u enjoy doing?

[Shilpa08 in reply to CanuckAnon]

Roaming out, driving , shopping but if I can’t cook is it bad

[CanuckAnon in reply to Shilpa08]

Can you boil an egg? Make rice? Make chai? Help chop veggies and such to prepare food to be cooked by someone else? Maybe you can get help with cooking... might be nice to have someone else to talk to as well?

[Shilpa08 in reply to CanuckAnon]

Yes I can boil, I can chop also.. but as I told u I don’t feel like there is so much hatred in me when I go in kitchen I do stuff but I don’t do it by love it’s like a burden hope u can understand and I am not able to improve it or I don’t know if I want to also as I am very lazy now

[Hidden]

I love cooking and preparing food, generally my wife cooks it I prepare it the only job I do not do is wash or dry dishes. I have been like that since before I got married. because of my joints in my hands

I will be making the dinner and carving the meat and doing the veg later today. We pick the veg and fruit together. Is that what you mean.

If you cannot cook, learn. When I was with my Surrogate I was taught how to prepare food and cook it at five years old where I learned how to pop peas and beans I moved on to using knifes when I was about seven years old, then a year later I was cooking food etc. So it has been a life long activity that has never changed. I was also taken out to the shops and shown how to judge veg and meat to get the correct qualities.

How have you never learned Home Management ??

BOB

[Shilpa08 in reply to Hidden]

I had learned but I panic every time and also my mind is so negative and sad that it doesn’t feel like to do something

[Hidden in reply to Shilpa08]

Strange we were discussing this this evening after dinner, with all that is going on we wondered if some of Hazels family should get made up foods delivered to the door.

However how would would they deliver if you are ill caused by the virus ? We started to purchase some tins years ago in case something like now happened, it would possibly keep us going for a week or so, although I cannot see any real benefit

Cooking is an art and if you had lessons, you should be able to prepare a simple meal or sandwich. Eggs are easy as is bacon and sausages.

If you do not cook how do you manage too eat a stable diet

BOB

[Dolphin14]

I don't enjoy cooking. Mayb your husband and in laws can take over. Why does it have to be your responsibility?

[Shilpa08 in reply to Dolphin14]

Because I am the daughter in law and in society we do it

[Dolphin14 in reply to Shilpa08]

Ok

[Shilpa08 in reply to Dolphin14]

But I hate it I am not mentally well I don’t love them as they always keep fighting in house

[Dolphin14 in reply to Shilpa08]

I'm sorry it has to be like that for you. I'm sure it's a struggle having to do something you don't like.

[MrRigatoni]

Hello pleased to meet you. Sorry to hear this.

I wanted to add there are ways to make simple food. Use kitchen appliances devices equipment to make meals and recipes.

I think is what is important is what you want.

If you do wish to cook then find ways to do short cuts tips tricks and ideas some planning.

Weekends are for diced chopping and making sauces. For fridge all ready to freeze if I have to use blenders, food processor.

Buy a slow cooker I have two one for big batch cooking in zip bags tubs labelled freezer.

Small one day to day no cooking involved.

Add Meat or Vegetables stock sauces and cover switch on leave all day, evening time ready.

Understand not like chopping diced buy ready made ingredients.

Most supermarkets have ready diced veggies or instant sauces where ever you live.

I use my logic and plan each day, have disability been difficult standing using hands and some days mental health not good but have a recipe repertoire full of tricks tips and ideas to make food costing nothing.

I even created a menu series of recipes ideas no cooking no heat applied for some one I knew as the illness they had made it impossible to cook anything.

There are solutions look on supermarket foodie websites.

Happy to help any time, pleasure to meet you.

Please take care.