Most people ignoring my disabled son

No cake or sweets for my son but gave cake for birthday and toys to nephew. My brother says "I don't want to know" when my mother mentions him and generally he ignores my non verbal autistic son - did not see him on his birthday.

Carer - on the other hand look after him and does art lessons with him and plays games with him (matching) College doing some activities with him but find it difficult to find activities to do with him and so I gave them, some pieces for his lesson - flashcards, matching and puzzles. Really feel college is not trying.

So difficult and difficult situation - they make you feel like loser and lower than anything but carer cheered us up - good phoning them. Took to restaurant - he really enjoyed with carer

Family not trying - I am trying so hard - why? I am reading to my newphew or listening to him read and getting him things, for drawing and other things - Why?

My son is not dead and they treat him - like he does not exist - what is the matter with these people? They are acting carefree and the burden on you- me that is to try and they do nothing -nothing at all ! Ignoring disabled people is wrong and not trying to educate them- is wrong

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Indevir

Sorry it is wrong, your Son has the needs of any other child, just because He has Autism does not mean He needs love and understanding from all your family members and their children. You mention playing with your nephew, why are you doing that when none of your family will play with your Son this seems to me you are passing love through the family and your Son gets none in return.

Peoples and families generally cannot understand Disability, sometimes like your Son they look at Him possibly as inhuman and this will just get worse and worse as your child gets older, this will make His condition even worse and He will pull away from those around Him.

It would be a shame in the future if the ignorance remains and your son will need to bite his lip and accept it because believe me the feelings of worthlessness He learns will set Him up for the rest of His Life. Your family may end up having more negative feelings as He gets older

BOB

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At his specialised autism school he managed to do GCSE - they were very positive influence and he does have a carer that was autism teacher - my good luck to have him. I feel like I am the only one holding hope for him and looking after his needs. You are right they are getting more and more negative and say things like that - I need them to be aware they are just not right about their attitude and passing him off to carer and myself but refuse to discuss my feeling with them. To stay positive when college is letting him down and refusing to teach him anything new - it is the old stuff and lessons that they made in specialised autism school - they just do not seem to have background to cope with him - their is another autism college but I think they may just be the same - pity their is nor specialised college for autism - it is for special needs and they do not seem to engage with him just as much - he relies on me for his educational input - books, supplies and all - they teach him from the books that I give to them. National Autistic Society - allows as charity to teach people how to deal with autism and grant from charity makes sure they get the right education. He needs another charity interested in his education. I will have to soldier on.

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It is important Indervir that he has the chance to work on what interests him. Knowing that will help him to find out who He is. Autism I understand can hide a gifted child and if that is so Your Lad could be a Sage in His chosen subject.

However the Nephew could be taught to go after your Son and make the situation even worse. This could cause a minimalist attitude to your Son and that would affect Him even more. He needs to be shown and expect respect and not the negative outlook that could be shown to Him

BOB