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So I'm a senior in high school. As such I'm already under a lot of stress. I'm taking two AP classes this year instead of just one, I'm trying to balance a girlfriend and work on top of everything else, and I've been behind on homework for a few weeks now because of various outside of and during school activities. I always try my hardest in school and work as hard as I can no matter what. I always try to give 110% to everything I do.

but here's my problem. While I'm not super keen on it, I tend to spend a lot of nights up late doing homework as I desperately try to catch up. I cram and I read and I read and I cram, but I only seem to be able to ALMOST catch up. My parents don't see it that way. From their point of view, I'm not caring enough or I'm not putting gin enough effort into anything. I don't seem to want to get caught up or whatever their response is.

But it's hard for me to talk to my friends about all of this. They're all under just as much stress as I am and it's hard to life someone else onto the life boat when you're also drowning. They usually just tell me "have you tried talking to them about all of this? it's not fair to you at all that you're treated like this". I know it's not fair, but it's just so hard to talk to them about literally anything.

If it's my fault, I apologize. If it's their fault, I apologize. If it's simple miscommunication, I apologize. No matter how hard I try I'm always the one making them feel like bad parents and I apologize for it.

So just to recap:

I've fallen behind to the point that it'll take a Christmas miracle to get caught up, I can't seem to reach the standard that my parents have set for me, and I can't talk to them about it because it makes them feel like bad parents.

And don't even get me started on my "friends". They literally never invite me to do anything. And even though I've brought it up many times for almost 3 years now, I'm still forgotten or ignored or whatever.

IDK. It just seems like i can't do anything right anymore. Am I over reacting?

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U sound like a typical senior in high school.My daughter graduated couple years ago.She was VERY much like u.She not only had high school but also AVP,which she went 1/2day to college for her trade from junior n senior year.Her high school work would keep her up all night n she was super super stressed.She had couple of friends but also didn't do things with them .

Parents want the best for there kids,so they do better than them.

Bottomline..do ONLY what u can..it is what it is..biggest thing..take care of ur mental health n u first.

My daughter graduated,then did another year of college n got 2 licenses, n her career .She is the youngest at her work with the most licenses.

For me,it wasn't the career she wanted,it's her happiness..money can make it easier but happiness is forever.

Do ONLY what u can...

Best thing u did was..come here n ask for input from all of us.

Wish u the best😊

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Thank you so much. I needed to hear this so badly right now

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Once u get ur high school diploma u will see it was all worth it.My daughter actually only speaks with one person from high school.

Take ur Xmas vacation to decompress n let loose n then it's just a countdown to graduation.

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When I was at College/ University, My time like yours was a real problem. My studies were very intensive and I found if I overworked in the evening it all just became counterproductive and just cramming made me forgot even more

Eventually I would study for say two hours and have a break for say twenty mins before starting again, then I would check what I had been studying and move onto a different subject and study that for the same above, then have a further break and return to checking what I studied before say about one hour before bed, in that last half hour I would do something that I enjoyed.

At Fridays study in parcels like above, however it is important you have me time. I would read my study notes of that week and question if the subject has sunk in

Saturday study for a time in the morning, Afternoon/ Evening you need time to relax. to go out with your GF,, Use Sunday the same way.

If you cram it does not work, I used to go subject blind.

BOB

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