Finding it difficult to describe thought process to my therpaist

[itgetsbetter5]

So I’ve just had my 2nd session with my therapist for social anxiety. I just find it hard to explain my thought processes and I constantly worry what he thinks about me or if he secretly thinks I’m crazy. Is this normal?

[orygun66]

Hi itgetsbetter5

I'm sorry to hear of your struggles. I'm not an expert in social anxiety but it seems to me your thoughts would be normal. Has the therapist helped you any in your sessions yet? It can certainly take time but just wondering.

Patti

[itgetsbetter5 in reply to orygun66]

Hi Patti,

Yes I think so ,its made me more optimistic about getting better and made me feel less ashamed of my anxiety in a way but I haven’t had a big breakthrough yet, most of the time I also worry about what my therapist thinks but I’m also starting to understand more how my mind thinks by talking about it. X

[Hidden]

So proud of you for the journey that you’re on!

I totally get what you’re saying. I felt the same way when I started therapy. So I’d say that it’s totally normal.

What helped me is I spent short periods of time allowing myself to focus on how I was feeling and what was going on and I’d write down whatever words came to mind.

I wouldn’t care about punctuation or spelling or even making sense. Keeping the time short kept me from being overwhelmed.

Writing it down helped me remember what I was feeling at the moment and lowered my anxiety about needed to exactly remember everything. The. I’d bring what I had written to my therapy session.

I was glad to find a therapist that understood what I was communicating and had a counseling style that matched my healing needs.

I hope that you do as well.

[itgetsbetter5 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! I’m going to try that next time. It takes me a long time to trust someone about so I really find it hard to about it to someone so I guess youre right it should get easier with time. I’m just seeing where it goes and hopefully my therapist will understand my thinking style better as time goes on X

[Hidden in reply to itgetsbetter5]

It takes a long time for me to trust as well.

I have had a few different therapists over the years. Each one was different but good for me at that time.

By the time I started meeting with my current therapist, I got tired of “beating around the bush”. So at the end of our first session, I boldly asked my therapist my most important question at that point... “can I trust you?”