Childhood trauma

[wanttofeelbetternow]

Parents divorced at 4. Dad left remarries. New kids. New family. I guess I’ve never gotten over that but no one acknowledges or talks about it. I feel like one day I’m just gonna snap and it’s all gonna come out. But if I confront my dad he’s gonna look at me like I have 3 heads just like anytime I mention anything with depth. I feel like I’m the only one in my family who sees and explores things past a surface level. I’m also very sensitive to feelings and emotions and very introverted . My sis shows very little affection to her kids and I want to stop this now before it’s too late and the cycle repeats. She does what my dad does and shows love through money and things versus attention and listening. Sometimes I think I should be a therapist. Just writing that gave me some clarity. If anyone made it to the end of that post. Congrats. And thanks for “

Listening”

[MAS_Nurse]

Good morning 'wantofeelbetternow'. Welcome to these very caring and supportive forums. Our members are fantastic which ever site you have been into and I see that is a few over the past few hours. Firstly there is nothing wrong with that, but Wow this is a cry for help and we all hear you. I suggest you have a good look around the other forums because there is help there as well as here. Have you thought about sharing how you feel with a health professional because it is a cry and there is help in the forms of different counselling.

I am sure some of our members will tell you about some that has helped them and your statements on other forums have said that you need help. You already have made great strides in helping yourself, and you show a great capacity to understanding others so please take this difficult leap and talk to GP, ask for counselling. Even take someone with you that you trust so that you feel comfortable.

Best wishes and please keep posting on the sites so that the supportive members can help you.

Regards,

MAS Nurse.

[wanttofeelbetternow in reply to MAS_Nurse]

Thanks for your reply. I’m sure therapy Would be helpful but financially I can’t do it. I’ve looked for low cost places too. I’ve recently found journaling and letting it out helps a lot even if it’s not a professional setting. It’s nice to know other can relate & I’m not alone out there in my feelings. I guess it would be like support groups for alcohol and drugs that people go to? Never heard of mental health ones tho.

[sweetiepye]

I don't think anyone gets through life without trauma of some kind and it usually occurs in childhood because we are more vulnerable then. We can't move forward if we are always looking backward and you are right about stopping this cycle now. You can only control what you do yourself. I'm afraid we can't change other people. Perhaps you could use some professional help and support. Pam

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Welcome

I had a family many would call normal, sad to say normality can present a mixed bag of problems, so my childhood through adulthood was far from normal in certain ways.

Parents sometimes bring their own baggage from their questionable?, childhood and this can introduce problems to their children. In your case it seems to have come from your Parents divorce, and starting a new family. Siblings in a straightforward relationship can be problematic. So I can imagine a new family with its own new children could cause quite a few problems because the dynamics of family life has a further complex relationship with people who may have further luggage or expectations from both earlier relationships. I had to blood Siblings and that was bad enough, so you are in a more complex environment.

In a way you need to talk and given the dynamic of family may prove a problem to explain your needs, so I can understand how lonely you must feel.

We are here to chat, although I feel you need someone close at home to vent who will not judge. In the UK we have charities or Mental Health Day Centres where we can talk and get support from others who may be going through something similar.

Look at pinned posts for availabilities of centres in other countries. If none of this is any good and you are finding a problem finding some organisation etc. Talk to our GP and explain how you feel, The Surgery may have suggestions that will help. When you make an appointment make a list of the points you want to talk about, this will afford more time to address how you feel

BOB