My wife has previously been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and has ups and downs.
Where I struggle is I try to be there to listen, talk, hug and whatever she needs when she's not feeling so good, but she increasingly blames me for not being able or not doing enough to make her happy.
I feel I'm being pushed away when she needs someone near and my confidence to do anything has been crushed. Even doing things around the house, cooking, cleaning, seeing family or friends increasingly make me anxious about not doing it right or arranging/doing anything that she wouldnt have or would have done differently which will make her angry or upset. Everything needs to be discussed and confirmed with her in advance and if things/plans change it is seen as my fault and due to not caring/understanding how she feels. I am exhausted by it and feel like I have nothing left in me to try to help her with her own mental health and end up withdrawing from her further... Has anyone been in a similar situation and found a way out?