I hate the weekend, it's when I feel most alone and realize that everyone around me looks forward to them, but I'm always alone and feel even worse. I don't understand why because I look forward to them so I don't need to speak with anyone, but when they arrive, I can't stand this loneliness.
I can't bring myself to to go and speak with anyone, but also hate myself for lying in bed for days.
Does anyone feel the same?
Oh yes!!! But my way of coping with that is by saying to myself " I need to get up and do something", even if it is just going for a walk or going to get a bag of shopping. I find myself unemployed at the moment and have been for the last month now - cant believe its been that long - and MY problem with the weekends is that I dont think I DESERVE them because Ive not worked for it!!??... Dont know if that makes sense to you, but thats how I feel about weekends just now and I didnt particularly like weekends even when I WAS working ...... especially Sunday nights. I think I must be the only person who has a panic attack when I hear the tune from the Antiques Roadshow on a Sunday....Hate it!!!
You should maybe try setting your alarm for a certain time on a Saturday morning say, 9am?? and tell yourself that no matter what when that alarm goes off you need to get up. Dont hesitate when the alarm goes off, just do it, just get up. Once you've got washed and dressed, make a point of getting out. Just a walk to the shops even, get a newspaper to read??..something for a cup of tea??....You will feel better. Keep going after that. Is there someone you could call? Fancy meeting for a coffee and a chat?? that kind of thing??
I know this sounds really extreme but there are people lying in hospital beds who would give anything to be able to do this and cant through no fault of their own - but you have that choice.....Your certainly not alone in the horrible "weekend blues" feeling but try turning it on its head and tell yourself you dont hate it, you like it and look forward to it. Sometimes mind over matter really does work.
I wish you all the best!!....(get ready and go for a walk now!!!)..
Keep in touch and let us know how you get on!!
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PS. I really dont mean to sound preachy but it IS a horrible feeling, and one that I feel quite often myself. These are just my wee ways of trying to deal with it!!
Yes! I hate the weekends. I never do anything and always feel left out. Not that I’m invited to do stuff anyway. During the week it’s different. I hate weekends.
Yes I would feel the same way as I had no company at the weekend either. I would try and fill it with shopping and chores so I was too busy to be too lonely.
Fortunately I did in the end find a pub where I could go to on my own and there was a big darts crowd in there and I joined in with them. I did make a couple of friends too. I used to go in there many a Sunday and it was great. x
Hi Tam79, I think you are not alone in how you're feeling. It's like a double-edged sword, we make the 'weekend' out to be the goal of our busy weeks, when you can rest, play, do whatever you want, but the reality for many is, as you say, you are then alone with your problems, and our anxious minds have a field day. Just a thought, but how about pre-planning and arranging to do something specific on weekends e.g. go to the movies, or go out for a country walk, or arrange to meet a friend in the pub, anything that you fix a time and day, to do something enjoyable and uplifting, could help you break the monotony and deadlock of staying in bed alone with your feelings. As I say just a thought...
What does anyone else think?
Take care Tam.
Best wishes.
I think that is great advice. I was also thinking as well, in my area, (I'm not sure about Tam79's area, but you never know), we having people advertising for Dog Walkers at the weekend and during the week.
It would give you something to get up for, a wee bit of responsibility, a dog would get you out in the fresh air and you would get paid a couple of bob for it too!!... It's certainly something I've considered many a time and might still do. And especially if you go to parks, there's been made a friendship struck up over chatting about each other's dogs!! (Davina McColl met her husband walking her dog!!??). XXXXX
Sorry, that was supposed to read "there's been MANY a friendship" XXXX
Volunteering.
In a charity shop. For the elderly. In a hospice. Contact the cvs or your local charities
Good luck x
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