questions about health

[kw41716]

if a person was sick in and out of the hospital for so many years , could a person be use to being sick/unhealthy and consider that as normal ? but consider healthy as abnormal ?

[sweetiepye]

Hi, I have been thinking about this for the last several days. I noticed people will post that they've had a few days of feeling good and then bam they're right back to feeling bad. Setbacks as they are known. I had them when I was recovering from anxiety and learned to ignore them and to keep moving forward. They are discouraging when they happen. I think you are exactly right, feeling good makes us uncomfortable it isn't normal anymore so I think we revert back to our not normal, normal. Sounds nuts doesn't it? Something to it I think. Knowing that should make it easier. Does that make sense to you ? Pam

[Jan247 in reply to sweetiepye]

I know I can handle being sad, anxious, down ect. When I start feeling happy, ect I seem to destroy it. If something were to make me smile, or up beat, excited, I feel completely out of sorts, that it's not right, and something will inevitably bring me back down......and I do believe now that it's me, I just don't know how to stop the cycle xx

[sweetiepye in reply to Jan247]

I can relate to that behavior. In my case I think I'm angry with myself and I don't think I deserve to be happy. I believe this goes back to childhood. Children often think things are their fault when actually they have no control so the quilt and anger carry over to adult hood. We place that anger on ourselves. It's difficult to change that thinking, you have to focus on positive behavior. Pam

[hypercat54]

Hi I remember seeing a programme on the telly a few years ago and a couple of women were talking about their childhood and young adulthood when they were ill and in and out of hospital. Both of them said they didn't know what was normal any more as no one had ever taught them how to live as well people.

It was really interesting. I also remember seeing a young woman suffering from anorexia who said she no longer knew how much food she should be eating. Should she fill a plate with it or not etc.

I guess we all live with whatever is normal for us. x

[Suzie40]

I think from a mental health point of view it makes lots of sense. Sometimes I find it hard to differentiate between being 'ok' and my mood being high. It's because I'm so used to rhe dark feeling of being depressed!