anger

[rabbitt]

can anyone help im in a bad situation ive always had an anger problem since being bullied at school still now 30 years on if some1 upsets me in the slightest bit im very aggresive sometimes its not my fault people decide to take me for granted i have beat people up very badly due to some not being my fault does any1 else feel like this

[DMM218 Ambassador]

I'm sorry to hear about your problem. It's good to hear that you are beginning to look for help. Have you spoken to a doctor about this?

You need to look at your feelings and behaviour carefully. Aggression which turns to physical violence is wrong. You need to look at other ways to deal with those situations. Before you do this, you need to accept full responsibility for your behaviour. There is no justification for violent assaults unless it is a life or death situation. No amount of bad words or ill treatment ever gives a person the right to physically hurt another. Until you understand and accept this point you are in serious danger of letting violence end your life or another's.

If you go to court the main thing linking all offenders is their lack of personal responsibility. There may be good reason for this such as poor parenting, childhood abuse, addiction issues. However, as you see from the site a lot of people share this history and don't harm anyone except themselves. As a mature person who need to look at this and start to develop the skills to defuse your anger safely.

Bullying can have traumatic consequences, but you aren't that vulnerable child anymore.

An anger management therapy is what you need. I've no idea where you can access this support in your community.

If you are using drugs or alcohol please stop as the effects on you with aggression will be heightened.

If you are angry and feel that you are losing control you must put yourself into a safe place where you are not with anyone else until the anger leaves. If nothing else it protects others. This simple action should be done by you without fail. For you it must always be flight and not fight. You control your body no one else does. There is always another option to violence.

Please speak to doctor.

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Rabbit

I advise you talk with your GP and He will arrange treatment and an Anger Management Course. With CBT fo your past memories. Medications may be given.

You need to address your past. In the immediate. When you feel your Anger come on use Breathing Techniques to bring yourself down.

One thing you can do, The old fashioned way is, just WALK AWAY.

See your GP as soon as you can so you will be given help getting over you past problems

I was bullied at school and through employment. I went through CBT and my past was addressed and I was able to move on. The above is a hard way, although the right way, good luck.

Always around

BOB

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello Rabbit, welcome to this community. It is good that you are aware of your anger issues, that is an important first step in dealing with them, rather than being in denial. Hopefully you will find this community helpful, and from the replies you have already received, people are reaching out to you with good advice, such asking for a GP referral to local psychological therapies. You may also, find this information helpful, click through the tabs that link to further advice:

nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-an...

[Finglas-Boy]

I've always had a "pressure cooker" head, more so after the TBI. But after I got out of hospital Dr's stressed importance of physical health upkeep. With their blessing & guidance I was able to keep up my 13 yrs of Shotokan karate. Attending the Dojo to work on bags, etc. provides a very welcome means of addressing my frustrations, angers, etc. Is there a karate dojo near you? Go & have a chat with the Sensei re; a means of getting rid of the aggression + the concentration required for Katas, meditation, etc. are added bonuses.