I have bipolar.. I'm finding t...

[Emma-louise93]

I have bipolar.. I'm finding things quite tough at the moment. My new partner doesn't understand me at all they just keep having a go that I'm not letting them in.. how can I let someone in when I don't fully understand myself.. I have said that if you think I'm shutting you out now this is a small episode compared to what I can have and if you can't deal with it then just walk away.. was that the right thing to do? X

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[Emma-louise93 in reply to spykey]

Thank you 🙂

[Jan810]

Hi Emma, just try to be open and honest about the way you feel. I'm sure in time he will get to see more of your illness. Maybe it's better you try to explain to him now. X

[Emma-louise93 in reply to Jan810]

I have tried to explain to her but at the moment I don't know why I'm having an episode but she keeps asking the same question over and over.. I've also sent a link about bipolar she says she has read it and understands but I don't think she does x

[Jan810 in reply to Emma-louise93]

Sorry, I shouldn't have assumed it was a him. It will be hard for anyone to understand what we go through having bipolar, but you done a great thing in sending her a link about it. It's a bit of a tough one if you have tried explaining but she is still asking over and over. I'm sure in time she will have to let it go and just accept that she could never truly understand. Good luck in your new relationship. I wish you all the best for the future. X

[Emma-louise93 in reply to Jan810]

That's okay.. i have said to her if she is finding it hard now then maybe it's best if we leave things she doesn't want to give up which is a good thing maybe she will understand in time.. thank you for taking your time to talk to me x

[Jan810 in reply to Emma-louise93]

That's a great thing that she doesn't want to give up. It sounds very promising. Your very welcome :). X

[Fi68]

Hello Emma-louise, I also have bipolar and I totally empathise with how you feel. It is so difficult to explain to your significant other what is going on, when you don't know or understand yourself and emotions can change quickly and dramatically. Maybe you and your girlfriend could find a local support group, for people with the condition and their nearest and dearest. Or try online, it is great that you have join us 😀. You ask if your actions were the right thing to do...crikey, who knows, what happened, happened. With bipolar I have found myself having to, very deliberately, let things that have happened go, and try and not predict what the future is going to be. Try to be mindful of the present moment, because that is the only moment that is real, the past has gone, the future yet to arrive. Be kind to yourself and enjoy all the good bits of a new relationship. Take care.

Fi.