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Divorced from my best mate for, now 2 years, she was my soul mate for 35 years, she's moved on, has new bfriend, me no-one, times like this I feel so sad, I used to be such a positive and forward looking person - probably feeling a little selfish and introspective, but it's about to be a New Year so perhaps 2017 will be the ONE :)

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Satsuma

Look forward and attract the things you want to you :) It is time to make changes .. New year, New start , New way of thinking and doing

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WhiteAlice in reply to Satsuma

Amen!!!

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grace111

35 years is a very long time to be married and best mates for and wont be forgotten either. you must have had a really great thing going to last all this time. no doubt that this has got you down. it takes time to get over a big break up like this. Be gentle on yourself and do things that you enjoy, what makes you happy? its probably good that you have not got involved in another relationship as you dont want to be on the rebound. when you find someone it will be because your ready to start a new relationship. just get on with your life the best way you can. i dont know what caused your break up. i hope this is a better year for you and you will make good choices for yourself. wishing you all the very best and keep your chin up. love grace xoxo 🙋🏼

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Lizbett

Hey. It's okay to be selfish and introspective as long as it doesn't become a permanent way of life.

Sit down and reflect upon what changes you would like to see in your life. Once you've done that, start to slowly implement them. Make a personal commitment to work on getting better. Your future awaits ... hopefully a happier one.

Cheers ✌

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Blueshirt

Second best best friend. You are your best friend; you are the one who will always be with you; you are the one who will never have a secret agenda. But being a best friend is a tough gig; you have to be encouraging, positive whilst honest. Sometimes a hug, sometimes tough love.

You're clearly a positive person, so give yourself a hug; grab your left hand with you right and and squeeze. There's another wingman out there for you, another Robin to your Batman, Tonto to make your Lone Ranger not quite so alone in 2017.

So you've pulled a double shift right off, and that will be hard work but you will get there. Love yourself and be kind to yourself. This is a great chance for you to get another type of best friend; not better- just different. Porsches are great; but go treat yourself to a Ferrari

Happy New Year

And Good luck

PS Drive carefully

Happy New Year.

I hope you make a new life for yourself, there are many people like you who will be looking for someone new in the New Year ahead, it may be to soon at this time, you will need to put your Life into perspective and move on to possible, greater things.

I do not know how lucky I am my family helps me control my problems. So be positive, we all learn from negativity and that helps us make positive changes

All the best

BOB

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