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[Reposting1]

Am I always going to be like the Minataur going round and round looking at the past and dissecting it looking at each shard of the mirror but unable to get a clear reflection of my prison , where is the source of river Styx and who put me on this side and?????????????????????

[tofler]

Scrutinising and dissecting the past (and all my mistakes!) only ever takes me to the bottom of a very deep black hole, so I try to avoid doing it, but I know that this is much easier said than done. Sometimes I just can't keep myself away from all that ruminating and over-thinking, ouch!!

[Hidden]

If you are dissecting your past and not addressing your situation that becomes a negative and you will just become worse and not move on. Generally we need to be positive in our mood and actions and this can be very hard work. So you need help.

After Christmas talk to your GP and He will arrange possibly some CBT. with a CPN. They will explain various coping skills that will help you move on from your distress.

You mention the river Styx, If you are in any real distress and are concerned call the NHS HELPLINE on Tel 111 and explain your fears, they can help with positive actions

We are here to talk

BOB

[Satsuma in reply to Hidden]

I got refused CBT and a cpn due to cuts and cos my problems were too complex for them

[Satsuma]

Am right by the Styx man .. Am trying to get out

[Hidden in reply to Satsuma]

River Styx is from the Greek. The journey via the ferryman on the river to Hades.

The other side. World of the Dead

BOB

[Satsuma in reply to Hidden]

Interesting .. Yea I am in the Styx

[Satsuma]

They say don't live in the past or let it bring u down .. Thing is though it is the past who makes us what we are today .. So wtf do we do ? Aaagghhhh

[tofler]

I agree, access to CBT is rarely a straightforward consequence of going to talk to our GP these days. S/he might agree to make the referral but having to wait months or years for it, or being screened out of it for a variety of reasons, is more likely to be the outcome. I've got nothing against CBT, I think it can be very useful and effective but there just isn't enough of it to go round (the demand for it is much greater than the supply) so we have to consider other ideas and approaches as well.

[Satsuma in reply to tofler]

Yes the services in every area of resource have been cut leaving the vulnerable to wither away

[Hidden]

The Service now in many areas is rationed, those of us who have gone through the mincer are here to help those who cannot get any support. Mental Health sad to say is a Cinderella Service.

BOB

[Satsuma in reply to Hidden]

There is nothing down for anyone or anything anymore .. The ambulance has took a knock too .. Within five years there will be no hope

[Hidden]

I was turned down for counselling as well I found myself taking to 2 of my sisters about something dreadful that happened to me many years ago. It got me thinking - it's always there but only as a big background thing, but I rarely allow myself to go any deeper and replay it as it gets me too upset. I got upset talking to my sisters very quickly so had to stop and put it back in the back of my head. x

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

It is a problem, I could never really talk to my family about past problems, I would just get annoyed with their negativity. I have come to terms regard my past, when we moved we started a new life and it was like a rebirth.

Sad, I can understand many do not manage to get the chance to make big changes to their situation. They are stuck.

I used to feel I was going around in ever increasing circles, it is that circle we need to cut ourselves out of to escape our negativity.

BOBx

[Reposting1 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks BoB really appreciated

[Reposting1 in reply to Hidden]

I understand . I have no intention of picking over the bones but in my case I only just found out a couple of weeks ago it was as though i had opened a cupboard and the contents had all fallen out upon my head and they were all mixed up around me , the past I understand and buried it but what fell out was a whole new ball game , because by accident I found out that I am Bi-polar first I had to look at all the pieces to definitely confirm it then examine who else it May affect following that who else were co-conspirators in n the plot especially seeing that I always suspected having a fit before 10yrs age then the anger started to pour out before I could put it back to bed

[Reposting1 in reply to Hidden]

That sounds like a really joyful experience ( not ) and you weren't very old either , something like that is like an acid or knife attack it sounds like it was quick and painful unlike my drawn out affair or was it also drawn out

[Reposting1]

I must admit I am the same its only that the whole can of worms has just revealed itself to me at 71 and it's the reasimilation of your past to present , its too late to do anything about it now but it is good to get a lot of it off your chest. ,,,,, thanks for being there and replying

[Hidden in reply to Reposting1]

There is a time in our lives we have to put all negative memories back into the blazing fires of the past and get on with living our lives as our years come to that hopeful, peaceful end, There is so much to see and do still. I want to still discover those sensations of new adventures, not hold on to a very sad past. engineered by some very sad and bitter people

BOB

[Reposting1 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Bob,

Just comming to terms that's all 🙂