I can't cope with my life anymore: I am feeling... - LUPUS UK


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I can't cope with my life anymore


I am feeling really down have daily anxiety attacks and my health is the worst ever I have just started back at work after 7 weeks sick and I'm no better but felt pressured to go back I don't want to let people down and I like havin some money to spend even though I am just keeping my head above water with that too after being placed on half pay last month I have no life and I'm just makin everyone I love stressed and unhappy I just can't cope I'm lashing out at my partner and can't control my anger I just want my health I'm 22 and walk like a 80year old I take enough meds to knock a horse out what can I do I can't take the emotional and physical pain anymore

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Hi there, it is tough... you need to get your GP or consultant to urgently refer you for some counselling and support.. and also perhaps a pain management clinic.. more support and strategy would help you. Many on here will understand your plight. I hope things do get better for you. Mary F x


Hi Zoezoe752,

As MaryF said, it would be a good idea to get to your GP as see what additional support they can offer you.

Is there anything that your work could do to make it easier for you to continue? Perhaps allowing you extra rests? Perhaps have a word with human resources if your work has an HR dept and see what they can do to help.

If you just need to talk, obviously feel free to use this site as much as you need. We also have contacts around the country that have lupus and can be an understanding ear for you. There are also lupus support groups that meet up. There are actually a couple of groups especially for young people (16-24) like yourself. They are based in Cambridge and London. Let me know if you'd like any more information about them.

If you need anything else, please don't hesitate to get in touch. You can get hold of me one here, by email at paul@lupusuk.org.uk or you can call our office and speak to me if you like on 01708 731251.

Best wishes,




If I remember correctly you're based in Sunderland right? I am 20 and understand a lot of what you're feeling. There is a North East support group based in Stockton which had it's first meeting on Saturday which I could send you details for if you wanted. Even if you wanted to meet up sometime in Sunderland just to sound off to someone who understands, I know it doesn't seem much, but talking does help.

And to echo what the others have said, it would also be a good idea to talk to your GP and see what kind of support they can offer you.

Hope you feel better. x

Zoe I am so sorry you are struggling so much at the moment, everyone here totally understands where you are at.

Definitely agree with reaching out for help, is your GP someone you can talk to, if so I would advise making an appt as soon as you can.

Regards work, definitely as Paul has suggested, contact your HR dept to see if there are any adjustments they could make, to make your working day less painful and stressful.

Good luck.

I am so sorry you are feeling so bad, I get like that myself sometimes I,m sure your partner understands. Go and get help, I write down all the things that make me feel so bad , so that when I speak to the doctor,I am prepared. She tells me not to beat myself up about asking for help. They want to help. Take care

I'm 22 ad went through all that no one understood what I was going through, the tiredness the horrific pain the sleepless nights cant eat, cant walk ad everything was swept from under my feel. But from every hardship cums easy. Just stay positive and talk to people that help ad tlk to ur gp.


Sorry to hear you're at the end of your tether. I totally get it. How my illness affects others is the toughest thing, even if they seem to understand, and with the best will in the world. It's as if you don't have a visible ailment so people aren't reminded that you are ill.

For me, and your mileage may vary, it really helped to have my wife talk to the doctor and get the info first hand. It really changed her view of things. Perhaps you could take a loved one to an appointment. Just an idea.

I hope your doc helps in some way....hang in there. You can make it!

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