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John is in ICU. He had his first treatment on Sept 11 and seemed OK until Friday. He has a blood clot in heart, heart rate not in control, now has congestive heart failure and much lower function. Cancerous fluid around lung has returned a week after removing one and a half liters of fluid and now he also has fluid around his heart. There will be no more chemo for cancer, just trying to stabilize his heart. Getting steroids to counteract the chemo as immune system seems to be attacking more than the cancer. Prayers would be greatly appreciated. He has always been a warrior and the strongest man I know. He overcame a soft tissue sarcoma cancer in 1993 and believed he would do the same with this stage four. Both cancers are Agent Orange related. He is the love of my life and we have been together over 50 years. This is not the way it was supposed to happen. I survived when I wasn’t suppose to and I sincerely believed he would, too. At this point he is in God’s hands since medicine has failed him.

Judy

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Lyubov

Keeping you both in my prayers!

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Ncpoet in reply to Lyubov

Thank you!

I am so sorry this is happening. I will pray for you both.

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Ncpoet in reply to Feelingblessed2013

Thank you!

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judg69

Prayers for your husband and you . Cancer can be a journey without end , and for better or worse sometimes a blessing when it does. May he be comforted in the arms of an Angel. My love and compassion to you both, judg69

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Ncpoet in reply to judg69

Thank you!

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VerdeAzul

How hard the road. You and John are in my prayers... strength, comfort, courage... but mostly, peace.

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Ncpoet in reply to VerdeAzul

Thank you!

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Goingcuckoo

In my prayers xx

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Ncpoet in reply to Goingcuckoo

Thank you!

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4fishylady

NCpoet I am saddened to hear this report about your dear husband. You are in my prayers. May our heavenly Father be very near to you both and give you His peace and comfort, throughout this ordeal.

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Ncpoet in reply to 4fishylady

Thank you!

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Adding my prayers. Have they done a pericardial window yet? He’s already given so much.

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Ncpoet in reply to Denzie

They can’t do any procedures until heart is stabilized. It was at 15% function on Friday and has clots. It was beating at 140 but thankfully now at 100. They will retest to see how heparin is doing. He is breathing easy with the oxygen and was allowed to eat yesterday. High steroids are working to counteract negative chemo results. When heart is more stable they can address the fluid around the heart and lung. They then hope to give him drugs to strengthen the heart. Talk about the cancer is on hold.

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KimGO2Partner in reply to Ncpoet

My heart is out there for you and your family. My you and your husband find strength and peace. Warmly, Kim

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Emkins

Dear Judy,

Will pray for you and your husband... don’t give up, he sounds like a strong man and a lot to live for.

Will be thinking of you at this incredibly difficult time.

Love and prayers xx

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Ncpoet in reply to Emkins

Thank you!

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Getalife18

Prayers for your husband.

It’s journey to get through this treatment. But you will.

Praying for you ❤️

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Ncpoet in reply to Getalife18

Thank you!

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JanetteR57

Thinking of you at this difficult time and hope you can find the strength to support him.

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Ncpoet in reply to JanetteR57

I supported him during his cancer in 1993, he supported me during my stage 4 lung cancer in 2013, and now it is my turn again to support him. It seems to be a ride that doesn’t stop.

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JanetteR57

Sadly for some that's unfortunately the way it goes. My dad had bowel cancer twice in his 50s and my mum supported him. She developed alzheimers around 15 years ago and he supports her so when he had another bowel cancer 3 years ago, we all supported him (my sisters and I). They've just celebrated 65 years anniversary (and had a card from the Queen) My dad sees it as his 'job' to care for mum and keep her at home despite his increasing frailty. Very important to keep up your own health and spirits when caring for others so hope you have a good support network yourself. take care.

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Ncpoet

Thank you! So sorry your family’s health has been so difficult. When you love someone, you never give up on them.

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ynkefan08753

Prayers going up for both of you 🙏🏻

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Ncpoet

Thank you!

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Gatorb8

I am so very sorry Ncpoet. He is in my prayers and I hope that he finds peace and comfort in God. This is not an easy road. God bless you.

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Ncpoet in reply to Gatorb8

Thank you!

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Unicorn1967

Sending prayers.

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Ncpoet in reply to Unicorn1967

Thank you!

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JeanE41

So sorry to hear about your husband's response to treatment. We never know how we will respond. Will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers. Jean

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Ncpoet in reply to JeanE41

Thank you!

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Motherdi

My Prayers are with you and your husband. Been there done that. God Bless!!

Diane

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Ncpoet in reply to Motherdi

Thank you!

Praying for you both right now

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Ncpoet in reply to Jenniferroseolson

Thank you!

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anrean

Praying for both of you. Please keep us updated. Cancer is a horrible thing, and it amazing how our bodies can respond, even when it is the worst. <3

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Ncpoet in reply to anrean

Thank you!

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Ssbastos

Hello, I’m sorry to hear about your husband.

I’d just like to convey to you what I read in another post about agent orange.

If your husbands cancer is related to agent orange, you and you’re husband are entitled to benefits from the VA. The thing is you have to ask the VA for the benefits for agent orange exposure, they won’t offer them.

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Ncpoet in reply to Ssbastos

Thank you. We were fortunate that his Agent Orange ailments qualified him for compensation. Your post may remind other vets to check that out.

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