I am a worried mum looking at my 21 year old daughter suffering with depression, anxiety, anger issues and low self esteem, I have tried without success to talk things through with her and have her to visit our local GP or Councillor. From a young child she seemed to have low self esteem who struggled in school and seemed to push people away. I put this down to me having a younger child and maybe I did not give her the attention she required so I started arranging days out just for me and her, but each time she wanted us to take her sibling with us. I arranged a private tutor to give her after school lessons but the tutor advised me that my daughter had little interest in learning. As she became older she became disruptive in school and I seemed to spend a lot of time at the school fighting her corner and making excuses as I felt some of the teachers took a dislike to her and didn't want to teach her. When she left school, for a while she had no interest in doing anything but then she got a job in a clothing shop and she seemed to have a more positive attitude towards life. She made new friends, enjoyed buying lots of new clothes and going out with her friends. By the time she was 18 she had a lovely car, a stable job and quite a bit of attention being paid to her as one thing I haven't mentioned is how gorgeous she is. Unfortunately the low self esteem was never far away and the minute that she may have a disagreement with a friend or her younger sister or myself the anger and nastiness would set in and she would turn into a different person. Over time this has become more frequent and the anger issues has got worse. On sitting talking to her she has admitted feeling alone and very depressed but don't really understand why. She has admitted to feeling occasionally jealous of her sibling who has always done well at school and a close group of friends. Things I notice with her is her generosity with people, almost as is she is trying hard to be liked and accepted. When she is in a relationship and she has a person with her all the time, these issues are not so apparent but the minute that she is on her own she gets so depressed and unable to cope. When her spirits are high she has a fabulous sense of humour, so funny and loving that everyone warms to her but that can change in a second. she may have a text or a phonecall that she is not happy about and her mood will change instantly. She finds it hard to embrace people and sometimes it seems that she is crying out to be loved. I tell her everyday how much she is loved and how she should focus on all the positive things in her life but it doesn't change anything. She is so unhappy with her life and I feel like my heart is breaking for her. Can anyone help?
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