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I'm almost 40 and my tubes are tied and burnt but now I want a baby

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7 years ago I got my tubes tied after I had my second son I thought I would be with his father the rest of my life but it didn't turn out that way now I'm engaged and want to give my soon to be husband a child we already have 4 boys which 2 is his and 2 is mines and now we want a child together what are my options

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Loraine7

I understand your concerns, luv. It would definitely be better if you had your tubes tied only. not burnt.. 'cause this makes the case a bit more complicated. Here I'm saying a good dr will always recommend trying less invasive options first. He'd advise trying to get your tubes untied. But the fact they're burnt..makes me feel this is not going to be the way out for you, I'm sorry. Since now I believe the best path for you might be considering IVF option. If you're still producing some perfect eggs you may undergo OE ivf. They will stimulate your ovaries to produce more follies than usual. Then they'll retrieve your eggs/ your dh's sperms. They'll put your materials in a special dish in the lab and let them fertilize. Here we all expect to get several perfect embryos for the ET. This way you'll have your embie/s placed directly into your uterus, you actually don't need your tubes for this. I hope you'll get more answers soon, luv. Stay well, you canstill do this! Xx

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Karinyaa

Hello, Kell39. I'm sorry you've found yourself in the situation like this :( If you google, you'll more likely to find sth like ''Tubal ligation procedures that cause the least amount of damage to the fallopian tubes are the most likely to allow a successful tubal ligation reversal. Examples include sterilization with tubal clips or rings. Procedures that cause scarring to seal off the fallopian tubes, such as the Essure or Adiana systems, generally aren't reversible..''

The procedure isn't appropriate for everyone. Your health care provider will consider several factors to determine if tubal ligation reversal is likely to be successful, such as:

Your age and BMI.

The type of tubal ligation.

The extent of the damage to your fallopian tubes.

Remaining tubal length.

Other fertility factors, such as sperm and egg quality.

The success of a tubal ligation reversal procedure depends on a variety of factors. It's more likely to be successful if you still have a large portion of healthy fallopian tube remaining. In cases where tubal ligation reversal isn't successful, IVF may be an alternative option to assist you in becoming pregnant.

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MamaVe in reply to Karinyaa

You've explicitly mentioned the right points that'll help the OP decide if her medical history supports the possibility of success more in case of untieing tubes and trying to get pregnant with some medicated aid or to go for IVF. I guess BMI and absence of cardiovascular inconsistencies will decide on whether or not it's safe for her to go on full gestation... which will decide her course in the "getting pregnant" journey. Great that you listed it down in points :)

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hannahding

I think the best thing to do would be to opt for IVF. However, I am not sure if you are a candidate for the process or not. Therefore, I would advise that you visit a good doctor. They will after doing your tests help you out. Good luck to you. Dont worry I am sure things will get better. Sending baby dust your way. Do keep us updated.

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MamaVe

Hi there, I understand you need and want for a child. With the tubes tied-up I think IVF can help you without having to fiddle with the tubes... otherwise its like try untie them and see if it works. Don't be daunted by your age... these days with IVF premenopausal women can conceive and have full gestation. There are several clinics which actually expertise in older women and have a convincingly high enough success rate to reassure you. So go for it, look for a good clinic with high success rate with 40+ women n probably it will work out for you too. And in my personal opinion whether you're in a new relationship or marriage or not you may change your mind to be a parent anytime in your life there's nothing wrong about it. Considering the post is a month old and I presume you've moved forward in your pregnancy journey already if not I'd insist do not wait-it-out for long. Wish you luck to be able to have a baby soon!

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JustKnewIt

Hi there. I'm sorry you're facing this challenge. But I suppose since your tubes are tied and burnt, the only possible option for you would be IVF. If not burnt, you could try to get your tubes untied. But, unfortunately, those are burnt. Meaning much damage has been made to them. :( But I do think IVF will help you to conceive. You know, this way you'll retrieve some eggs from you. (In the most of cases the ovaries are stimulated to get more eggs). Then they retrieve some sperms. Further they get eggs and sperms combined in a special lab dish, so that they can penetrate and create some beautiful embies. Then you make the decision on how many of them you want to transfer. In our case they transferred 2. Only one made it. So it was rather for boosting chances in our particular situation. IVF is believed to have high success rates. I'm praying you'll be among those successfully completed soon. hugsx

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Loraine7

I did more research on the point of tubes issues. Fallopian tubes can be damaged in many different ways. If the furthest end of the tube is blocked, then the tube cannot pick up an ovulated egg. This may also cause the tube to collect fluid and dilate, creating what is known as a hydrosalpinx. It is important to know if your blocked tubes created a hydrosalpinx, because the fluid that collects inside can decrease your chance of successful pregnancy with IVF by about 50%. If your doctor finds a hydrosalpinx, they may recommend that you have the tube removed or blocked using a surgical procedure, so that the fluid from the hydrosalpinx does not communicate with the uterus. Damaged fallopian tubes may sometimes be partially open. This can increase your risk of an ectopic pregnancy, or a pregnancy that implants outside the uterus. The fallopian tube is the most common place for an ectopic pregnancy to grow. An ectopic pregnancies can be dangerous if it grows large enough to cause heavy bleeding, and so in almost all cases it should be removed using surgery or medication.

Patients who have had a tubal ligation in the past have intentional tubal factor infertility. If you have had a tubal ligation and would like to become pregnant again, your options include IVF or surgery to rejoin the tubes. This surgery is called tubal reanastomosis, and is only done in certain centers. IVF is often the recommended course, but the final determination of the correct treatment may depend on your age and ovarian reserve.

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Marmo

The most important thing is that you want to be a parent again! I believe no circumstances will stop you :) I feel so proud of you, you're not grieving in private, but looking for the possible options. One thing is tough, though, your tubes are burnt, not tied only. If those were just tied - you could try to untie them through the surgery. (you've probably heard about). But this damage is greater, it's a fact. IVF can omit all those complications, as they'll put your wee bean directly to your uterus. Have you considered it?

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Mel77

I believe you'd better consider ivf now. Dear I understand, this might not sound exactly what you wanted to hear. But the fact that your tubes are burnt is no good..I'm sorry..

On the other hand I'm proud of you, you're looking for help on how to have another baby in your family. You should be strong and self demanding. I'm sure you'll do it!

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Kell39 in reply to Mel77

Thanks alot

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Mel77

If you're using your own eggs during IVF, at the start of a cycle you'll begin treatment with synthetic hormones to stimulate your ovaries to produce multiple eggs.. rather than the single egg that normally develops each month. Multiple eggs are needed because some eggs won't fertilize or develop normally after fertilization. You may need several different medications, such as:

Medications for ovarian stimulation. To stimulate your ovaries, you might receive an injectable medication containing FSH, LH or a combination of both. These medications stimulate more than one egg to develop at a time.

Medications for oocyte maturation. When the follicles are ready for egg retrieval - generally after eight to 14 days - you will take HCG or other medications to help the eggs mature.

Medications to prevent premature ovulation.These medications prevent your body from releasing the developing eggs too soon.

Medications to prepare the lining of your uterus. On the day of egg retrieval or at the time of embryo transfer, your doctor might recommend that you begin taking progesterone supplements to make the lining of your uterus more receptive to implantation.

Your doctor will work with you to determine which medications to use and when to use them.

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