My husband is 50 years of age. He is incredibly academically intelligent but socially he is totally inept although he is a brilliant teacher! I find him overally aggressive, nothing is ever his fault it is always 'why are you being so nasty' He is quite a routine person, never seems to able to see the other side and at times frightens me with his unpredictable reactions. He has been through a a fair few trying years but I do not think his behaviour for somebody so intelligent is at all rational. He is obsseisive about collecting books and CDs he does not always read or CDs he never plays! He is work obsessive and if something goes wrong or he thinks people are against him he becomes very irrational and goes on for hours!!!! He seems tobe so angry and fed up. He has become so detached from me I simply do not know what to do.
I am a SEN teacher and teach in a Pupil Referral Centre so, I am well versed with these issues and consider myself to be open minded but I know very little about adult especially of this age? He will not seek any help or advice and thinks I am 'bringing work home' but I know there is seomthing not right. There are times when he looks like he is in a different world and I have caught him several times drawing in the air and biting his knuckle. This is not a new situation but seems to me to be much more apparent at the moment. Can anybody just share their initial thoughts with me. Am I totally wrong or are there things I can do that might help?
To be honest I am at my witsend and simply dread coming home or him walking through the door because I have no idea of what to expect, so I would appreciate your thoughts, please feel to be honest and tell me if I need the help!!!!!!!