My son is coming up to 28 years of age and has been suffering mental health difficulties all of his life since a very young child. He has been on just about every type of anti-depressant available, but he never gets any better. He has no friends, no social skills, crippling anxiety and is in his room just about 24/7. Through his life I have tried and tried to get help but each time it has lasted only a while before we were left to' get on with it'. Thus, with no firm diagnosis of anything other than Dispraxia and depression, he has been left with no help. Over the years he has been terribly violent and destructive, with walls bashed in and doors smashed all the way through and he treats me appallingly, yet I know he loves me. He says that if anything were to happen to me he would kill himself immediately as that would be the end as far as he was concerned and he would be truly alone. After a call to the mental health crisis team at a particularly bad time he was referred to secondary mental health services and is currently having psychotherapy with a trainee and he had a very short mental health assessment with a trainee GP who diagnosed Dysthymia. He did have a support worker for a few weeks who managed to get him to meet him at a local coffee shop and they built up a friendship in my sons eyes, and then without warning he said his visits were ending. My son seemed OK at first but we have just had the week from hell with him as his depression went into overdrive. We are now awaiting a second assessment with a fully qualified person but it seems we will be waiting a while for this as the person who would have done it last Friday has left. At my carers assessment the assessor asked if my son had ever been tested for Autism and when I began to read about it, it was a 'light bulb moment' for me when things just started to slip into place. He did the Cambridge online autism test and scored 32 putting him in the top bracket for possible autism. Mental health services are (I believe) a little annoyed that I have requested that my son has a formal assessment to see whether his is indeed on the spectrum and I know I am going to face a monumental struggle to see this happen - if it ever does. I suffer depression myself, as do several members of my family and my aunt committed suicide so there is clearly a strong family history of mental health issues. My problem is getting anyone to listen to me when I say that my son may be afflicted with both mental health issues and autism. We would at least like to know if this is indeed the case or whether it could be ruled out, but I just cannot see them taking me seriously, even though my son has told those who see him that he has always felt different to everyone else. It all just seems such a waste of a young mans life.